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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Do women have a moment of doubt before they say "I do"?

Today Maina was talking about weddings. And he wanted to know whether the woman has a moment, just a moment of doubt before she says the magic words, "I do"?

My Human Opinion

To give a simple answer; Yes they do (you guessed it)! Why? It 's said arguably that the most important days in anyone's life are the birth day, the wedding day and the day he/she dies. So, yeah, I will go with yes.

Life changing decisions usually come with some apprehension for most people. The woman's life is about to change drastically, for better or for worse. She is about to leave her family, her siblings, her home, her comfort zone and enter a new world with numerous responsibilities. What would really help is who she is about to marry. More on that later.


But then again she could be too ecstatic to care. This is her special day.


But what does her state of mind have to do with us? We shouldn't even be discussing this. If we had to discuss and document each time we have felt nervous or doubtful before doing something even the Internet wouldn't be vast enough to contain the posts.

However, what would be interesting is if she has a moment, just a moment of doubt then says "I don't"

My Biblical Opinion

It is human to have doubt, the state of being unsure of something. However, the uncertainty is reduced when the 'something' is given/told/proposed by someone who is worthy of trust. The Lord God Almighty is the best example of someone whose word is worth maximum trust.
Numbers 23: 19 God is not a man, that he should lie,
       nor a son of man, that he should change his mind.
       Does he speak and then not act?
       Does he promise and not fulfill?
So when the Lord said to Abram (later known as Abraham)
Genesis 12: 1..."Leave your country, your people and your father's household and go to the land I will show you.
4 So Abram left, as the LORD had told him; and Lot went with him. Abram was seventy-five years old when he set out from Haran. 5 He took his wife Sarai, his nephew Lot, all the possessions they had accumulated and the people they had acquired in Haran, and they set out for the land of Canaan,
 Do you see the level of trust Abram had in the Lord? So if the bridegroom exudes great confidence and has proven trustworthy, then the bride has nothing to doubt about. (the proving part is the tricky bit)

However, not all believe without seeing. Ever heard of the doubting Thomas?

When all is said and done, Jesus urges us to be strong and have faith in Him.
Mark 11:  22"Have faith in God," Jesus answered. 23"I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him. 24Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
Do you believe? Pray for your marriage even as you say the sacred vows. You don't know what the marriage journey holds for you.

We don't know either. But God does. See you tomorrow

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