tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454679115096186362024-03-13T03:31:32.426+03:00Classic 105 FM Morning Breakfast Show :: A Biblical PerspectiveA Commentary of the daily topics about relationships, marriage and pare-pare discussed in the Classic 105 FM Morning Breakfast Show, hosted by Maina Kageni and Mwalimu King'ang'i, with a Biblical twistClassic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-74659440295092807762011-08-03T11:02:00.000+03:002011-08-03T11:02:25.131+03:00When the wife is the breadwinner who is the looser?For the last few days, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu have been discussing about women who are the main breadwinners in their homes. Should the husband keep off the wife's money? Should the husband live according to his or his wife's means? As always, money matters are sensitive. There is no one-size-fits-all answer. Just opinions.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>Whereas more women are becoming the breadwinners in their homes, we should be asking 'what are the men winning?'. That's for another day.<br />
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There is nothing wrong with the wife being the main breadwinner, for a period of time. Yes. I believe the wife can win bread but it should not be indefinitely, unless the husband has a disability or illness that he cannot work. Or he is on death-row, of which he wouldn't qualify to be a active 'husband'.<br />
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Therefore, for <b>temporary</b> situations like studying, loss of one source of income, an illness or accident, the man of the house should bounce back and retake his position as the breadwinner. That's why there are two of you in the marriage isn't it? When one is down the other picks you up. Even if the bread he can win is smaller, he should win it nonetheless. And work towards winning a bigger piece of bread.<br />
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Now the problem with most men is this ego monster. True, it is easy and very much possible for the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Panasonic-SD-YD250-Automatic-Bread-Maker/dp/B00005QFL0?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">bread</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B00005QFL0" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;" width="1" /> winning wife to loose respect and honor for the husband, especially if the bread winning status prolongs. But is would take a man with the proper dosage of esteem not to turn around abuse (emotionally, physically, socially or financially) the wife. Instead he should encourage her to greater heights (for their family's sake) as he sorts his business. Otherwise he would misinterpret everything she does as being <i>madharau</i> to him—the '<i>short-man</i>' syndrome! <br />
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Besides, all primary bread-winning women whether they say so or not don't want to be the primary breadwinners. Even the miss independents wouldn't mind marrying a rich dude. Ask the Basketball Wives.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>The famous, but not easily available, virtuous woman of <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=proverbs%2031:10-31&version=NIV" target="_blank">Proverbs 31</a> works.<br />
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<blockquote> <b>Proverbs 31:14-18</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17299">14</sup> She is like the merchant ships, <br />
bringing her food from afar. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17300">15</sup> She gets up while it is still night; <br />
she provides food for her family <br />
and portions for her female servants. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17301">16</sup> She considers a field and buys it; <br />
<b>out of her earnings</b> she plants a vineyard. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17302">17</sup> She sets about her work vigorously; <br />
her arms are strong for her tasks. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17303">18</sup> She sees that <b>her trading is profitable</b>, <br />
and her lamp does not go out at night. </blockquote>So working is a must. Now, breadwinner or not, women always want to rule over their men. But that's not their place.<br />
<blockquote>Gen 1: 16 To the woman He said:<br />
“I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception;<br />
In pain you shall bring forth children;<br />
Your desire shall be for your husband,<br />
<b>And he shall rule over you</b>.” </blockquote>Anyway, the days of the Bible were different in many ways, but there was no lack of wealth women. A good example is Lydia. She was a wealthy business woman who opened up her home for the church in Colossae. Though we are not told whether she was married, widowed, single or divorced we do know she had a household, from which we can make assumptions. But she had positive influence on her household and used her wealth and status to greatly assist Paul and the church.<br />
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<h5 class="passage-header">Lydia’s Conversion in Philippi</h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-27495">11</sup> From Troas we put out to sea and sailed straight for Samothrace, and the next day we went on to Neapolis. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-27496">12</sup> From there we traveled to Philippi, a Roman colony and the leading city of that district<sup class="footnote" value="[<a href="#fen-NIV-27496a" title="See footnote a">a</a>]">[<a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Acts+16&version=NIV#fen-NIV-27496a" title="See footnote a">a</a>]</sup> of Macedonia. And we stayed there several days. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-27497">13</sup> On the Sabbath we went outside the city gate to the river, where we expected to find a place of prayer. We sat down and began to speak to the women who had gathered there. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-27498">14</sup> One of those listening was a woman from the city of Thyatira named Lydia, <b>a dealer in purple cloth</b>. She was a worshiper of God. The Lord opened her heart to respond to Paul’s message. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-27499">15</sup> <b>When she and the members of her household were baptized, she invited us to her home</b>. “If you consider me a believer in the Lord,” she said, “come and stay at my house.” And she persuaded us. </blockquote>Some say Lydia wasn't as wealth as many believe. Or that she was indeed a slave. That is neither here nor there. The bottom line is there should be no loser.<br />
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The bread winning woman should still maintain respect and honour for her husband. And the <b>not</b> bread winning husband should try all means to continue (or start) winning the said bread and not use excuses and become a couch bread—potato.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-11695456059231468862011-06-13T12:58:00.000+03:002011-06-13T12:58:42.221+03:00Is it official or not?Finally, Maina wa Kageni is launching his <a href="http://www.mainawakageni.com/" target="_blank">website</a> soon, a little bit too late I must say. But he is using the Classic 105 feed from Home.co.ke. <br />
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I thought he would have access to an audio stream that is direct, straight from the frying pan?<br />
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I guess I thought wrong. Let's wait and see.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-21858408901501089612011-04-07T14:33:00.000+03:002011-04-07T14:33:05.299+03:00Tales of mama's boyYesterday our hosts at Classic 105 were talking about mamas' boys. A certain caller called in to say that she knew of a lady who lives with her 47-year old son. Mwalimu was of the opinion that such mothers are messing up with boys such that they (the 'boys') become undatable and unmarriable. So they were asking whether such mothers are over-spoiling their sons.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>I totally agree with Mwalimu Kingangi on this one. Four-seven years, and still at home!! Even someone half that age should not still be living with their parents. Woi! It is indeed sad seeing a man refusing to grow up.<br />
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There is no excuse this man or such like him can give. At the very, very least, he should move out of the 'main' house to the 'extension' or SQ.<br />
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Ummarriable? Consider this. If a man can't take care of himself, who will he take of?<br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>Jacob is the first guy that pops to mind when I think of a mama's boy from the Bible.<br />
<blockquote><b>Genesis 25:27-28</b> <br />
27 The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was content to stay at home among the tents. 28 Isaac, who had a taste for wild game, loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob.</blockquote>However, do not, even for an instant, assume that Jacob was a sissy. Yes, he liked cooking and hanging around the kitchen. But he physically wrestled with God. And could have won if God didn't zap his hip.<br />
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Anyway, the Bible is very clear from the beginning how things should go down.<br />
<blockquote><b>Genesis 2:24</b><br />
That is why a man leaves his <b>father and mother</b> and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. </blockquote>I need not say more. Man, go find a wife.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-6589882875229063822011-04-01T10:43:00.000+03:002011-04-01T10:43:14.807+03:00Tell me, who's fooling who?Today is <a href="http://www.amazon.com/April-Foolishness-Teresa-Bateman/dp/0807504041?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Fools' Day</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0807504041" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;" width="1" />. And as such we shall fool each other by combining the last two Day's topics into one—and no one will be the wiser.<br />
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Yesterday, akina Maina and crew were talking about njyes training for men, a topic that was discussed until late in the night on 'fakebook'.<br />
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Today, they are talking about how many Kenyan women complain about how Kenyan men are 'useless'.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>The original origin of Fools' Day is uncertain and is still debated amongst those who care to. But basically, it's believed to have began in the 16<sup>th</sup> Century in France after the Gregorian calendar was introduced and New Year's day was moved from April 1<sup>st</sup> to January 1<sup>st</sup>. And since information used to travel slowly in those twittless days, some people didn't get the 411 until many years later.<br />
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What is my point? Communication delayed, like justice, is communication denied. Communication delayed, like assumptions, can create fools out of you and me. <br />
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Many have said it. The root problem between men and women is usually communication, or lack of it. Men and women see, hear, taste, feel and smell things differently—obviously.<br />
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Another argument, is who started it all. The woman will say I'm this way or that way because he is that way or this way. Then the man will say I'm this way or that way because she is that way or this way. And so on.<br />
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Enough already. It's time for MEN to suck it up and style up. Why men? Because you are men. And that is what you are supposed to do.<br />
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Consider this, <span style="color: red;">my additions in red</span><br />
<blockquote><b>Romans 5: 6-8 </b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28054">6</sup> You see, <b>at just the right time</b>, when we <span style="color: red;">(the church)</span> were <b>still powerless</b>, Christ died for the ungodly <span style="color: red;">(that's you and me)</span>. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28055">7</sup> Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28056">8</sup> But God demonstrates <b>his own love</b> for us in this: <b>While we <span style="color: red;">(the church)</span> were still sinners, Christ died for us</b>.</blockquote>If Christ represents the husband and the church represents the wife/bride, then guess who should bulge first and give up their rights.<br />
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So men, be a better man whether or not your woman will respond in kind.<br />
<blockquote><b>1 John 4:16-19</b> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30620">16</sup> And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. <br />
God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30621">17</sup> This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30622">18</sup> There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30623">19</sup> <b>We <span style="color: red;">(the church)</span> love because he first loved us</b>.</blockquote><br />
Now, in case you were not aware, the above has been about today's topic.<br />
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For yesterday's topic about njyes training, I will link you to a previous related post <a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/10/training-good-husband-tradition-unfair.html">here</a>.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-18230141186366730392011-03-29T09:42:00.000+03:002011-03-29T09:42:11.040+03:00Danger...again!Our dear hosts at classic 105 seem to be running out of topics to talk about. I can give them suggestions if they are interested though.<br />
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For the past two days, they have been talking about polygamy, read Akuku Danger.<br />
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Well, click <a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/10/can-women-live-in-harmony-in-polygamous.html">here</a> for the previous post about Akuku Danger.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-91588869065643220742011-03-22T15:21:00.001+03:002011-03-22T15:22:57.727+03:00Do beautiful women make good wives?Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about beautiful women. Apparently, there are beautiful women who know that they are beautiful such that some men claim that they cannot make good wives. Mwalimu said that such women can show you proper <i>matharau</i>.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>To define beauty is difficult. For you to call someone beautiful he/she must fit your definition of beauty. But let's face it, there are universally beauuuutiful people on this Earth. I am yet to find a human being, both male or female, who doesn't find Halle Berry attractive.<br />
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Anyway, whatever way you define 'physical beauty', if you find yourself in that category it's wise to always remember that it will not last. The wrinkles will come and gravity is going nowhere in the foreseeable future.<br />
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I know some beautiful women who have let their beauty get into their heads, maybe because there is nothing else there. But I also know some beautiful women who have amazing behaviour, who are godly, smart, elegant—who simply wow you; from when they enter a room upto when they open their mouths. When the former open their mouths, you cringe. And if you marry such, woe unto you.<br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>Our God is a God of beauty. Look at nature. Look at wildlife. Look at the skies. Look at the mirror. <br />
Beautiful.<br />
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There are many Biblical characters who were extremely physically attractive. Sarah, Joseph, Rahab, Rachel, Rebecca, Ruth, Queen Vashti, Queen Esther, David and Bathsheba (Brangelina of their times), Absalom, Queen of Sheba, the list goes on. <br />
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However, God NEVER uses outward physical appearance to determine what is beauty. God looks at the inner beauty, the state of one's heart.<br />
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<blockquote><b>1 Samuel 16:7</b><br />
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<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7603">7</sup> But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but <b>the LORD looks at the heart</b>.”</blockquote><br />
Some of these characters, who were noted for the physical beauty, were a disappointment on the spiritual front. Like Sarah, who lacked her husband's faith. Or Saul, who was disobedient to God, Or David and Bathsheba, you—you know their story.<br />
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Now, to settle today's topic, see what the Bible says to women:<br />
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<blockquote><b>1 Peter 3:1-5</b><br />
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<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30426">1</sup> Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30427">2</sup> when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30428">3</sup> Your beauty <b>should not</b> come from <b>outward adornment</b>, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30429">4</sup> Rather, it should be that of your <b>inner self</b>, the <b>unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit</b>, which is of great worth in God’s sight. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30430">5</sup> For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands,</blockquote>Which kind of woman should be praised?<br />
<blockquote><b>Proverbs 31:30</b><br />
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. </blockquote>Another hard-hitting verse.<br />
<blockquote><b>Matthew 23:27</b><br />
27 “<span style="color: red;">Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look </span><b style="color: red;">beautiful on the outside</b><span style="color: red;"> but on the inside are full of the bones of the </span><b style="color: red;">dead and everything unclean</b><span style="color: red;">.</span></blockquote>Are you beautiful—for true?Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-4769225856669807782011-03-22T14:12:00.000+03:002011-03-22T14:12:16.739+03:00Do Kenyan single women intimidate single Kenyan men?Yesterday, our hosts were talking about single women. Apparently, there are single Kenyan women who are undateable and intimidate Kenyan men to the point that they (the single women) cannot be approached.<br />
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This topic has somewhat being discussed here before. <br />
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Here are some previous related posts,<br />
<ul><li><a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/11/are-kenyan-women-unapproachable.html">Are Kenyan women unapproachable</a>?</li>
<li><a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/09/single-women-how-desperate-can-you-get.html">Desperate Single Women</a>?</li>
<li><a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/09/single-ladies-what-kind-of-man-are-you.html">Qualities a woman looks for in a man</a>.</li>
<li><a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/09/kenyan-men-what-qualities-do-you-look.html">Qualities a man looks for in a woman </a> </li>
</ul>Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-61140359641172496682011-03-17T14:47:00.000+03:002011-03-17T14:47:22.154+03:00A woman who lends money...Yesterday, our hosts were talking about money. Apparently, when you borrow money from your wife/girlfriend, you should never misuse it nor fail to pay it back. Mwalimu Kingangi insisted that borrowing money from your woman was not a good idea and could lead to painful results.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>First things first, prudence demands that you don't misuse or fail to pay back <b>any</b> borrowed money. But clearly not many people are prudent. Does a recent global economic crisis come to mind?<br />
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Anyway, women expect their men to provide. So, whereas they may not have a problem giving others (especially their relatives) money, they might feel awkward giving their spouse/boyfriend money. Now, ask them to loan their spouse money, and the awkwardness rises—significantly.<br />
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The loan application may go through, but it will be <i>shingo upande</i> and/or with stringent fine print, especially if your(the loanee) credit rating is poor.<br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>The Bible has quite a lot to say about borrowing and lending of money and other things. Some verses give commands, others give warnings and best practices.<br />
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<h3>So, to the borrower:</h3><blockquote><br />
<b>Proverbs 22:7</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17023">7</sup> The rich rule over the poor, <br />
and the borrower is <b>slave</b> to the lender.</blockquote>If you borrow money and DON'T repay or you give without withholding, see what the Bible calls you <br />
<blockquote><b>Psalm 37:21</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-14472">21</sup> The <b>wicked</b> borrow and do not repay, <br />
but the righteous give generously; </blockquote><h3>And to the lender:</h3><br />
<blockquote><b>Matthew 5:42</b><br />
<span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23277">42</sup> Give to the one who <b>asks</b> you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.</span></blockquote>Women, did you read the above verse? Read again.<br />
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Now, for husbands and wives, consider this verse. The Lord commanded Israelites not to charge interest amongst themselves (Muslims still follow this in their sharia law, so why should you charge your husband/wife interest? <br />
<blockquote><b>Deuteronomy 23:19-20</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-5520">19</sup> Do not charge a <b>fellow Israelite</b> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Interest-Rate-Modelling-Financial-Engineering/dp/0471975230?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">interest</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0471975230" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, whether on money or food or anything else that may earn interest. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-5521">20</sup> You may charge <b>a foreigner</b> interest, but not a fellow Israelite, so that the LORD your God may bless you in everything you put your hand to in the land you are entering to possess. </blockquote><br />
Give, expecting nothing in return. That is the real test of a true giver.<br />
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<blockquote><b>Luke 6:34-38</b> </blockquote><blockquote><span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25181">34</sup> And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25182">35</sup> But <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Silver-Star-V-NECK-T-Shirt-White-/dp/B002Q7ZI7A?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">love your enemies</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B002Q7ZI7A" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25183">36</sup> Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25184">37</sup> “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25185">38</sup> Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”</span></blockquote><br />
All in all, it's better to be the giver, than the receiver.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-43427835823275418812011-03-11T14:26:00.000+03:002011-03-11T14:26:38.833+03:00Are rich Kenyan men stingy?Yesterday, our hosts were talking about <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Rich-Single-Women-Pamela-Beck/dp/059514912X?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">rich Kenyan men</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=059514912X" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />. Apparently rich Kenyan men are very stingy with their money. They will spend money buying a house or paying rent, a car, a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Holiday-Inn-Disc-Collectors-Set/dp/B001DXS4E2?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">holiday</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B001DXS4E2" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, on school fees but will never give you hard cash. True?<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>In my (very) human opinion (IMHO), this was a disguised attack on men from a certain community; who are know for amassing wealth (by any means) and thereafter being very mean with it (the wealth that is). They are also notorious for their lack of romance (read, their lack of generosity with their wealth).<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-BEBDsob0jno/TXjM0ccXtwI/AAAAAAAAACw/KgSm8ZuwJKg/s1600/richman1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="115" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-BEBDsob0jno/TXjM0ccXtwI/AAAAAAAAACw/KgSm8ZuwJKg/s200/richman1.jpg" width="172" /></a></div>It may be true that some rich Kenyan men, especially the older generation, are known for their 'stinginess', yes, in quotes. These men grew up in the colonial times and were well acquainted with adversity. Cash was not a plentiful commodity. So, in their minds, money had to be protected, come what may, Even when they made lot's of cash, it's like they were afraid—no—terrified of loosing it.<br />
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A house, they can see and touch. A car, they can see and touch. A holiday, okay, but chances are they came along with you and had fun, or stayed home, and had fun.<br />
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But when they give you <b>money</b>—hard (or maybe not so hard) earned <i>shillingis</i>, they see money walking away, literally.<br />
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Oh, and there's this saying, "Like father, like son." So it would not be a surprise if these miser-like tendencies were passed on from father to son. But this is just my opinion.<br />
<h2></h2><h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>The Bible talks a lot about money. In fact some of these topics have been discussed here. In simple terms, the Bible differentiates between a rich man—not good and a man who is rich—not bad.<br />
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A rich man defines and identifies himself by his riches, whereas a man who is rich is just a man, who is rich.<br />
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As to whether rich Kenyan men are stingy, the Bible does offer insight on the psyche of many rich men.<br />
It's now parable time.<br />
<blockquote><b>Luke 12:13-21 </b><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><b>The Parable of the Rich Fool</b></span><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25473">13</sup> Someone in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.” <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25474">14</sup> Jesus replied, <span class="woj">“<span style="color: red;">Man, who appointed me a judge or an arbiter between you?”</span></span><span style="color: red;"> </span><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25475" style="color: red;">15</sup><span style="color: red;"> Then he said to them, </span><span class="woj"><span style="color: red;">“Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of <b>greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions</b>.</span>”</span> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25476">16</sup> And he told them this parable: <span class="woj" style="color: red;"><span style="color: black;">“</span>The <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Successful-Small-Scale-Farming-Down-Earth/dp/0882666428?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">ground</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0882666428" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> of a certain rich man yielded an abundant harvest.</span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj" style="color: red;"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25477">17</sup> He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’</span> <br />
<div style="color: red;"> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25478">18</sup> “Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store my surplus grain.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25479">19</sup> And I’ll say to myself, “You have plenty of grain laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.”’</span> </div><div style="color: red;"> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25480">20</sup> “But God said to him, ‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for <b>yourself?</b>’</span> </div><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25481" style="color: red;">21</sup><span style="color: red;"> “This is how it will be with whoever <b>stores up things for themselves but is not rich toward God</b>.</span>”</span></blockquote>As you amass that wealth, ask yourself what God asked the rich <i>falla</i>; "...Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?"<br />
<blockquote><b>Luke 16:19-25</b><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><b>The Rich Man and Lazarus</b></span><br />
<span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25640">19</sup> “<span style="color: red;">There was a rich man who was dressed in purple and fine linen and lived in luxury every day.</span></span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj" style="color: red;"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25641">20</sup> At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores</span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj" style="color: red;"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25642">21</sup> and longing to eat what fell from the rich man’s table. Even the dogs came and licked his sores.</span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj" style="color: red;"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25643">22</sup> “The time came when the beggar died and the angels carried him to Abraham’s side. The rich man also died and was buried.</span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj" style="color: red;"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25644">23</sup> In Hades, where he was in torment, he looked up and saw Abraham far away, with Lazarus by his side.</span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj" style="color: red;"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25645">24</sup> So he called to him, ‘Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.’</span> <br />
<div style="color: red;"> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25646">25</sup> “But Abraham replied, ‘Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, while Lazarus received bad things, but now he is comforted here and you are in agony.</span></div></blockquote>The rich man was too hard-hearted to help poor Lazarus.<br />
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You knew this one was coming:<br />
<blockquote><b>Luke 18:18-30</b><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><b>The Rich and the Kingdom of God</b></span><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25707">18</sup> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Jesus-Rich-Young-Ruler-Understanding/dp/1424105099?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">A certain ruler</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1424105099" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> asked him, “Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25708">19</sup> “<span style="color: red;">Why do you call me good?</span>”</span> Jesus answered. <span class="woj">“<span style="color: red;">No one is good—except God alone.</span></span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25709" style="color: red;">20</sup><span style="color: red;"> You know the commandments: ‘You shall not commit adultery, you shall not murder, you shall not steal, you shall not give false testimony, honor your father and mother.’</span>”</span> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25710">21</sup> “All these I have kept since I was a boy,” he said. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25711">22</sup> When Jesus heard this, he said to him, <span class="woj">“<span style="color: red;">You still lack one thing. Sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have <b>treasure in heaven</b>. Then come, follow me.</span>”</span> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25712">23</sup> When he heard this, he became very sad, because he was very wealthy. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25713">24</sup> Jesus looked at him and said, <span class="woj">“<span style="color: red;">How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God!</span></span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25714" style="color: red;">25</sup><span style="color: red;"> Indeed, it is easier for a <b>camel</b> to go through the <b>eye of a needle</b> than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God.</span>”</span> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25715">26</sup> Those who heard this asked, “Who then can be saved?” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25716">27</sup> Jesus replied, <span class="woj">“<span style="color: red;">What is impossible with man is possible with God.</span>”</span> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25717">28</sup> Peter said to him, “We have left all we had to follow you!” <br />
<span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25718">29</sup> “<span style="color: red;">Truly I tell you</span>,”</span> Jesus said to them, <span class="woj">“<span style="color: red;">no one who has left home or wife or brothers or sisters or parents or children for the sake of the kingdom of God</span></span><span style="color: red;"> </span><span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25719" style="color: red;">30</sup><span style="color: red;"> will fail to receive many times as much in this age, and in the age to come eternal life.</span>”</span><br />
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</blockquote> A rich man would not have sold all that he had, whereas a man who is rich would have. And on that note, a final command, that differentiates a rich man and a man who is rich.<br />
<blockquote><b>1 Timothy 6:17-19 </b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-29806">17</sup> Command those who are rich in this present world not to be <b>arrogant</b> nor<b> to put their hope in wealth</b>, which is so uncertain, but to <b>put their hope in God</b>, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-29807">18</sup> Command them to do good, to be <b>rich in good deeds</b>, and to be <b>generous</b> and <b>willing to share</b>. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-29808">19</sup> In this way they will lay up <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Treasure-Yourself-Thoughts-Generation-Miranda/dp/1401924352?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">treasure</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1401924352" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> for themselves as a firm foundation <b>for the coming age</b>, so that they may take hold of the life that is <b>truly life</b>. </blockquote>Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-15358849423966007512011-03-08T20:38:00.001+03:002011-03-09T08:23:14.792+03:00The Day for Women to...Today is the International Women's Day. Therefore, our hosts today were inviting the women to take this opportunity and tell the men exactly what they want.<br />
<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>Today we celebrate women. Mothers, wives, sisters, girlfriends, daughters, all women of the world. We salute you.<br />
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Now come on dear peoples. That question cannot be answered—exactly. What do women want? Everything? Nothing? Anything? Something? Who knows, even women are sometimes not sure what they want. I won't even offer an opinion here. Let's just read what the Bible says. <br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2><blockquote><b>Genesis 1:26a and 27b</b><br />
Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have <b>dominion</b>over the fish of the sea...<br />
So God created created man in His own image...male and female He created them.</blockquote>In a nutshell, we are made in God's image. So, in the beginning, before the fall of mankind, our 'want' was to worship and fellowship with God. <br />
<blockquote><b>Ecclesiastes 12:13</b><br />
Let us hear the conclusion of the matter:<br />
Fear God and keep His commandments. For this is man's all.</blockquote>However, we don't usually keep to this 'conclusion'!<br />
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And this leads me to what women want. Are you ready?<br />
<blockquote><b>Genesis 3:16</b><br />
To the woman He said:<br />
"I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your <b>desire</b> shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you."</blockquote><br />
Well, this verse is usually misinterpreted, however, this is my take. <br />
Women will desire relationships, read husband in the verse. She will desire to rule over her relationships, read husband. But her relationships, read husband, will rule over her. Rule in the sense of decisions, time, emotions, and in some cases rule quite literally.<br />
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Does this explain why women have difficulties in their relationships with men? I don't know.<br />
But the conclusion of the matter is; whether you know what women want or not, celebrate the women in you life.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-90655606586323301792011-03-02T16:56:00.000+03:002011-03-02T16:56:31.962+03:00Maid of honour?Today, Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about maids. Apparently a lot of married women are letting the maids take over in terms of cooking, cleaning and raising the kids. Mwalimu was of the opinion that when a woman let's the maid take over, their value diminishes.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>Mmmm what to say. This is one of those topics that cannot be generalized. Every case is a different as every other. Undisputedly, maids are an important part of most households. Problems arising thereof may lie with the husband, the wife, the maid, the children or a combination of any or all of the above.<br />
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Therefore, it's difficult to completely agree or disagree with Mwalimu on this one. However, generally speaking, a maid should help out on domestic chores. The wife should supervise and give direction since she is ultimately responsible on the domestic front. If the wife doesn't do this then her value, in this aspect, will diminish.<br />
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If Mwalimu expects the wife to actually cook (versus instructing what should be cooked) is like expecting the CEO of Kengen to climb up an electricity pole to fix a cable. <br />
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Anyway, problems arising from maids are not new, and nothing illustrates this more than the story of Sarah, her slave girl Hagar and <i>buda mwenyewe</i> Father Abraham. <br />
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<h2> </h2><h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>The story of Sarah and Hagar is found in Genesis 16. I will insert commentary in <span style="color: red;">red </span>below<br />
<blockquote><h4>Genesis 16</h4><h5>Hagar and Ishmael</h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-383">1</sup> Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had <b>borne him no children</b>. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-384">2</sup> so she said to Abram, “The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.” <span style="color: red;">Sarah doubts God's promise and looses faith. Consequently, makes a bad decision. Wife's fault!</span><br />
Abram agreed to what Sarai said. <span style="color: red;">Abraham also doubt's and agrees to wife's idea. Does this ring a bell? An Adam and Eve sort of bell? Husband's fault!</span> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-385">3</sup> So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-386">4</sup> He slept with Hagar, and she conceived. <br />
When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. <span style="color: red;">For a woman in Hagar's position, becoming pregnant to the leader of the clan would have been a great honour. It would have raised her social status. Instead of accepting this honor with humility she become proud. Maid's fault! </span> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-387">5</sup> Then Sarai said to Abram, “You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my slave in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the LORD judge between you and me.” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-388">6</sup> “Your slave is in your hands,” Abram said. “<b>Do with her whatever you think best</b>.” Then <b>Sarai mistreated Hagar</b>; so she fled from her. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-389">7</sup> The angel of the LORD found Hagar near a spring in the desert; it was the spring that is beside the road to Shur. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-390">8</sup> And he said, “Hagar, slave of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?” <br />
“I’m running away from my mistress Sarai,” she answered. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-391">9</sup> Then the angel of the LORD told her, “Go back to your mistress and submit to her.” <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-392">10</sup> The angel added, “I will increase your descendants so much that they will be too numerous to count.” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-393">11</sup> The angel of the LORD also said to her: <br />
“You are now pregnant <br />
and you will give birth to a son. <br />
You shall name him Ishmael,<br />
for the LORD has heard of your misery. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-394">12</sup> He will be a wild donkey of a man; <br />
<b> his hand will be against everyone <br />
and everyone’s hand against him</b>, <br />
and he will live in <b>hostility <br />
toward all his brothers</b>.” <span style="color: red;">Mmm, I wonder who his descendants are...</span><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-395">13</sup> She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen<sup> </sup>the One who sees me.” <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-396">14</sup> That is why the well was called Beer Lahai Roi; it is still there, between Kadesh and Bered. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-397">15</sup> So Hagar bore Abram a son, and Abram gave the name Ishmael to the son she had borne. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-398">16</sup> Abram was eighty-six years old when Hagar bore him Ishmael. </blockquote><br />
Another <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=genesis%2030&version=NIV" target="_blank">example</a> is that of Rachel and her maid Bilhah, Leah and her maid Zilpah and Mr. Jacob. <br />
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The fact that Old Testament Patriarchs did it doesn't mean it was okay. Look what happened with Sarah and<br />
Hagar. (For more info and details about the Sarah Hagar situation read <a href="http://www.womeninthebible.net/1.2.Hagar.htm" target="_blank">here</a>)<br />
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The bottom line is that wrong motives, not trusting God's promises, laziness, lustfulness, selfish ambition are some of the reasons that can let a maid invade a marriage, with the permission of the husband and/or wife.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-30029401153393807192011-02-24T14:19:00.000+03:002011-02-24T14:19:34.091+03:00Does getting born again mean you stop njyes?Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the situation when your spouse gets 'too saved' that they take some of your marital privileges, aka freaky njyes or no njyes. Should you accept this and adjust to their new life?<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>First of all there is nothing like 'too saved'. If fact no one is saved yet! Those who are BORN-AGAIN will get saved when the Day of Christ comes. But let's not get into theological discussions. However, there is something like too much religion, like the overzealous Pharisees of Jesus' day.<br />
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Anyway, husbands and wives should not deprive each other and if they must, only for a time and for the right reasons (relevant verses below).<br />
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Many a times women use religion and religious activities to postpone or partially refuse or totally refuse to fulfill their husbands' sexual desire. This is not Biblically right.<br />
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Religion and religious activities are good but they should not make you miss the mark. Remember the story of the <span id="goog_2026882985"></span><a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=luke%2010:25-37&version=NIV">good Samaritan<span id="goog_2026882986"></span></a>? The Levite and the Priest must have been going to do some religious activity. That is great. But they neglected to show mercy on the wounded robber when it mattered; the true essence of the Gospel.<br />
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There are, however, certain cases where the born-again spouse must refuse to participate in certain activities which might have been 'okay' before. For example, watching porn before/during sex and other perverse sexual activity.<br />
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But issues about, positions, when, where, how, how frequent etc should not be limited by the fact that you are born-again.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>First and foremost, sex is only allowed between a married couple! Now that we have that sorted, I need not and should not say more. 1 Corinthians chapter 7, verses 1 - 24 do the talking.<br />
<blockquote><h4>1 Corinthians 7:1-24</h4><h5>Concerning Married Life</h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28489">1</sup> Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28490">2</sup> But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. <b><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28491">3</sup> The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28492">4</sup> The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. </b><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28493">5</sup> Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28494">6</sup> I say this as a concession, not as a command. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28495">7</sup> I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28496">8</sup> Now to the unmarried<sup class="footnote" value="[<a href="#fen-NIV-28496a" title="See footnote a">a</a>]">[<a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20corinthians%207&version=NIV#fen-NIV-28496a" title="See footnote a">a</a>]</sup> and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28497">9</sup> But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28498">10</sup> To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28499">11</sup> But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28500">12</sup> To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, <b>he must not <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Fresh-Start-Divorce-Recovery-Workbook/dp/0785271929?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">divorce</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0785271929" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> her</b>. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28501">13</sup> And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, <b>she must not divorce him</b>. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28502">14</sup> For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28503">15</sup> <b>But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so</b>. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. <b><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28504">16</sup> How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? </b><br />
<h5>Concerning Change of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Collection-Status-Quo/dp/B0000B3EL2?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Status</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0000B3EL2" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /></h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28505">17</sup> Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28506">18</sup> Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28507">19</sup> Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28508">20</sup> Each person should remain in the situation they were in when God called them. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28509">21</sup> Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28510">22</sup> For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28511">23</sup> You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of human beings. <b><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28512">24</sup> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Brothers-Sisters-Complete-Second-Season/dp/B0018CWEVW?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Brothers and sisters</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0018CWEVW" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, each person, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation they were in when God called them</b>. </blockquote>Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-4131536186112002932011-01-27T16:54:00.001+03:002011-01-28T08:20:56.564+03:00Can you tell someone's wallet-size by looking at them?The other day, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about ladies who apparently can tell the size of a man's wallet the minute they see you. Within the first few minutes, they can tell whether the man is a winner or a loser. Maina and Mwalimu also wanted to know if their initial judgment turned out to be true. <br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2><br />
It has been said somewhere that you don't judge a book by it's cover. But we still do. It's just the way we are. Even the Bible tells us that we humans look at the outward man/woman. The shoes on the man. The makeup on the woman. The car in the man. The <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Frigidaire-FFFC07M2KW-7-2-Chest-Freezer/dp/B0033QR2FE?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">chest</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0033QR2FE" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> on the woman. You name it.<br />
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Therefore, we all judge people around us by how the appear <b>first</b>, then the rest follow. We listen to <b>how</b> they say before we listen to <b>what</b> they say. i.e. Is there an accent, is there massive butchering of the language etc. We watch <b>how</b> they carry themselves before we watch <b>where</b> they are going. It's just the way we are. We see in other people what we want to see in them before, if ever, we see what they really are.<br />
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It's, therefore, no surprise that we sometimes have wrong impressions of the people around us—in the first few minutes<br />
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I think it's impossible to <b>completely</b> read a person <b>correctly</b> in the first <b>few</b> minutes. What do I mean. In the first few minutes you can read a person completely, but not correctly; or correctly but not completely.<br />
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It is easy to fake wealth, health, length (or lack thereof) but not forever. There are guys who tell women that they are flat broke and hustling, just to see their reaction.<br />
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Anyway, it takes time to completely and correctly get to know someone. That's why marriages are intended to last for a lifetime.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>As mentioned easily, man/woman looks at the outward whereas God looks inward (and in essence we should too).<br />
<blockquote><b>1 <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Unthinkable-Samuel-L-Jackson/dp/B003HTSJAY?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Samuel</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B003HTSJAY" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> 16:7 </b> But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the <b>outward appearance</b>, but the LORD looks at the <b>heart</b>.” </blockquote>Read the whole <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20samuel%2016&version=NIV">chapter</a> later on. But right there is your answer!Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-74427392250363313922011-01-25T16:58:00.001+03:002011-01-25T17:00:24.269+03:00Tycoon-seekers vs Tycoon-fakersYesterday, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about <a href="http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/mag/InsidePage.php?id=2000027314&cid=349&" target="_blank">a story</a> in one of the daily newspapers. Apparently, women who are looking for '<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Financial-Accounting-6e-Annual-Report/dp/0077300335?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">financially</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0077300335" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> stable' men sometimes end up finding men who are fake tycoons. What gives?<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>Obviously women look for some form of stability in men. Emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, social and economical. So that is not news. However, many do insist on the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Economics-McGraw-Hill-Campbell-McConnell/dp/0073375691?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">economic</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0073375691" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> stability, sometimes without even looking at the other aspects of the man.<br />
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So, obviously, any man looking to put such a woman 'in the box' will work on the economic aspect of his game only. Faking it if necessary—until she is in the '<a href="http://www.amazon.com/D-Link-DSM-380-Boxee-Box-by/dp/B0038JE07O?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">box</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0038JE07O" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />'. <br />
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Who or what is to blame? Fear? Worry? Greed? Ignorance? Pride? I don't know. Do you?<br />
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Some say (I won't say who) that women of low IQ and/or social standing are most likely to look at a man's financial stability while neglecting all other qualities (or lack thereof) of the said man. They see such men as the only way to financial security unlike their smarter working class counterparts who have other options.<br />
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All I can say is that both <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Plant-Tycoon-Mac/dp/B0012V3SD2?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">tycoon</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0012V3SD2" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />-seeker and the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Prison-Tycoon-4-Supermax-Pc/dp/B001AWOVA2?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">tycoon</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B001AWOVA2" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />-faker will soon get exposed for who they really are.<br />
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Who knows, they both might deserve each other after all.<br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>There is nothing wrong with seeking a financially stable partner. However, you need to check your true motives. Besides, the Bible advices us not to store our treasures here, for where your treasure is so is your heart.<br />
<blockquote><b>Matthew 6: 19-21 </b><br />
<span class="woj">“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.</span> <span class="woj">But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.</span><span class="woj"> <b>For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.</b></span></blockquote>And to you, man or woman, who is worrying about financial stability either yours or your prospective partner, listen to what the Bible says.<br />
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<blockquote><b>Matthew 6: 25-34 </b><br />
<h5>Do Not Worry</h5> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23308">25</sup> “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. <b>Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?</b></span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23309">26</sup> Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23310">27</sup> Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23311">28</sup> “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23312">29</sup> Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23313">30</sup> If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23314">31</sup> So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23315">32</sup> <b>For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them</b>.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23316">33</sup> <span style="color: red;">But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.</span></span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23317">34</sup> Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.</span> </blockquote><br />
Now, lying usually has it's roots in fear or pride. In this case both apply. Fear of rejection. Male pride/ego. You name it.<br />
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Therefore, tycoon-fakers, hear ye what the Bible says about lying.<br />
<blockquote><b>Proverbs 6: 16-19 <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-16557"></sup></b></blockquote><br />
<blockquote><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-16557">16</sup> There are six things the LORD hates, <br />
seven that are detestable to him: <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-16558">17</sup> haughty eyes, <br />
<b> a lying tongue, </b><br />
hands that shed innocent blood, <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-16559">18</sup> a heart that devises wicked schemes, <br />
feet that are quick to rush into evil, <br />
<b> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-16560">19</sup> a false witness who pours out lies </b><br />
and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.</blockquote><blockquote><b>Colossians 3:9-10</b> <br />
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. </blockquote> Seek ye first the Kingdom of God.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-37763075405438172442011-01-18T15:30:00.000+03:002011-01-18T15:30:36.428+03:00Marriage pressure or just nice reminders?Yesterday, Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Joseph were talking about a certain story in one of the daily newspapers. There was a certain lady who was complaining about the pressure from parents, relatives, workmates and friends to get married. Mwalimu was of the opinion that that is not pressure, but nice reminders. So they wanted to know if single women, especially those above 30, were under pressure to marry. And if they were, how did/do they handle the pressure. And is it anyone's business when and if they get married.<br />
<a name='more'></a><h2>My Human Opinion</h2>'When will you settle down?'<br />
'You are not getting any younger.'<br />
'Hey, I have this friend I want you to meet.' <br />
'Are you gay?'<br />
'What is the problem?' <br />
And quite forwardly, 'When are you getting married?'<br />
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The pressure is real! And the hints not so subtle anymore.<br />
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Make no mistake. Whether you like it or not, marriage is still an important part of the Kenyan society, and it should be.<br />
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Our society is such that we frown upon people who don't follow the expected norm. Older woman marrying younger man, women working in 'male' professions and vice versa, inter-racial/religion/tribal marriages, the wife earning more than the husband, I could continue forever.<br />
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The point is that pressure to marry and have children is real because that is what is expected. It, however, doesn't mean that marriage is for everyone. Marriage is a serious commitment that should not be entered to without careful thought.<br />
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Anyway, don't blame your parents, relatives, friends and colleagues for asking and probing. They are merely doing what comes naturally. And in true African fashion, we are always in each others business. It's a thing called community. You should, however, be concerned if they literally forced you into marriage.<br />
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How do you handle the pressure? Only you can answer that.<br />
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But one tried and tested way to handle the pressure to marry is to marry.<br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>It's not a must to marry. But your reasons for not marrying MUST not be selfish. The Bible says so. I shall take excerpts from 1 Corinthians 7.<br />
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Marry if you cannot control your passions.<br />
<blockquote><b>1 Corinthians 7:1-2</b> Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.</blockquote>However, if you are strong-willed you can serve the Lord better when single<br />
<blockquote><b>1 Corinthians 7:37-38</b> But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.</blockquote>How can you serve the Lord better?<br />
<blockquote><b> 1 Corinthians 7:32-35</b> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28520">32</sup> I would like you to be <b>free from concern</b>. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—<b>how he can please the Lord</b>. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28521">33</sup> But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—<b>how he can please his wife</b>— <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28522">34</sup> and his interests are <b>divided</b>. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in <b>both body and spirit</b>. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—<b>how she can please her husband</b>. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28523">35</sup> I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in <b>undivided</b> devotion to the Lord. </blockquote><br />
It's up to you to choose which way to go. But again, if you decide not to marry, then devote yourself to the Lord and His service, not to hedonistic pursuits.<br />
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I conclude just like Paul did in 1 Corinthians 7:17 and the second part of verse 19<br />
<blockquote><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28505">17</sup> Nevertheless, each person should <b>live as a believer in whatever situation</b> the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. </blockquote><blockquote><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28505">19</sup>...Keeping God’s commands is what counts. </blockquote>Do you feel the pressure lifting?<br />
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<small>Please read the whole <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20corinthians%207&version=NIV">chapter</a> for more clarity. </small>Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-8853937363042590992011-01-15T12:48:00.000+03:002011-01-15T12:48:03.140+03:00Magnet MenYesterday, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about magnet men aka chic magnets. Mwalimu was of the opinion that every man is a magnet. So they were asking what it takes to be a woman magnet and what makes women go after such men.<br />
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<a name='more'></a><h2>My Human Opinion</h2>In some way, as Mwalimu suggested, every man is indeed a woman magnet. Magnet of what kind of woman is the question. However, methinks every man can attract any woman he wants. Keeping that attraction is another thing. Anyway, back to the question.<br />
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It's actually simple to be a woman magnet. It's called masculinity.<br />
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Masculinity is not just the man's physical attributes but it's more of the way he carries himself.<br />
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Confidence!<br />
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Search anywhere and you'll see that they all say the same thing. Confidence!<br />
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A man who attracts women instantly exude confidence. That means he is knows who he is and is fine with who he is. He walks into a room and he keeps his head high. He knows that he may not be the best looking, the richest, the tallest, the most muscular but his masculine vibes will draw in the women.<br />
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The other attributes some how appear when confidence is in place:<br />
<ul><li>Sense of humor</li>
<li>Smiling</li>
<li>Eye contact </li>
<li>Sensitivity (not too much though)</li>
<li>Sense of style (okay this one can lead to confidence not the other way round)</li>
<li>Intelligence (or appearance of it) </li>
<li>etc<br />
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</ul>Such things make woman got after such men.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>There is no shortage of woman magnets in the Bible. And for some of them their magnetism was to their detriment.<br />
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Joseph 'dreamcoat', Samson 'the terminator', Sir King David, Sage King Solomon, 'metro-sexual' Absalom, just to mention a few. There is one more, our Lord Jesus Christ.<br />
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Yeah, Jesus is the ultimate woman magnet. Actually, a magnet for all. Hear what he said in John 12:30-32<br />
<blockquote><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26611">30</sup> Jesus said, <span class="woj">“This voice was for your benefit, not mine.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26612">31</sup> Now is the time for judgment on this world; now the prince of this world will be driven out.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26613">32</sup> And I, when I am lifted up<sup> </sup>from the earth, <b style="color: red;">will draw all people to myself</b><span style="color: red;">.</span>”</span></blockquote>What other magnet do you need. Jesus paid the ultimate price so that he can have a relationship with you. He's irresistible.<br />
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So don't reject his vibe or it will be too late. Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-56034054102259821702011-01-10T20:09:00.000+03:002011-01-10T20:09:08.986+03:00Money: A curious case of Njiru's SammyWe continue talking about money. Today the topic was about whether a woman is justified in taking half a man's money when they divorce. And on the spotlight was one case of Olympian magnitude involving Sammy wa (belonging to) Njiru that has been taking us for a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Non-Runners-Marathon-Trainer-David-Whitsett/dp/1570281823?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">marathon</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1570281823" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>This is one of those situations where you don't really know what's going on. Only the (running) shoe wearer knows where, why and how much it pinches. But from sources close by, it seems that this situation Sammy finds himself in was inevitable. Anyway, that is not for this forum. <br />
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For those who don't know, Sammy, who belongs to Njiru, has been experiencing <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Tiger-Woods-PGA-Tour-Playstation-3/dp/B00386PJRM?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Tigerish</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B00386PJRM" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> nightmares that should have been kept away from the press. But since he is the current Olympic marathon champion some how we get to know about his domestics.<br />
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Anyway, I shall not repeat his story here. All I can say is that he should sort his problems away from the spotlight. And a special note to Teresiah/Tereza/Teresa (there are so many versions of her name floating around), problems with a mother-in-law is not anything new. Learn to deal with such problems and not run away. Guard your <i>boma</i>. However, if it's about the money (like most are saying), I rest my case.<br />
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Now, back to the question whether a woman is justified in taking half a man's money. The simple answer is yes. <br />
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Does Sammy wa Njiru remember what he said when he gave Teresiah the ring. I don't know but he must have said something along these lines.<br />
<blockquote>I give you this ring as a symbol of my love; and with <b>all that I am and all that I have</b>, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.</blockquote>Enough said.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>God hates divorce. Why? Because divorce simply means violence. What do I mean? When a man and a woman marry they become one flesh.<br />
<blockquote><b>Genesis 2:23-24</b> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-54">23</sup> The man said, <br />
“This is now bone of my bones <br />
and flesh of my flesh; <br />
she shall be called ‘woman,’ <br />
for she was taken out of man.” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-55">24</sup> That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they <b>become one flesh</b>. </blockquote>So, can you guess what happens when you tear apart 'one flesh'? It's not pretty. And it's not painless.<br />
<blockquote><b>Malachi 2:16</b><br />
<i>“I hate <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Truth-About-Children-Divorce-Emotions/dp/0452287162?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">divorce</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0452287162" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “because the man who divorces his wife covers his garment with <b>violence</b>,”</i> </blockquote>Divorce most certainly leads to adultery, another thing that God really hates. See what Jesus says in Matthew.<br />
<blockquote><b>Matthew 5: 31-32</b><br />
<h5>Divorce</h5> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23266">31</sup> “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-23267">32</sup> But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the <b>victim of adultery</b>, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.</span> </blockquote><br />
Finally, we pray and hope that Sammy does sort his issues, and that he doesn't 'teleza' in his future endeavors.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-48729019087314109812011-01-05T20:50:00.000+03:002011-01-05T20:50:37.022+03:00Money: Is it his or hers or theirs?Happy New Year dear friends. I hope you enjoyed the holiday season and took time to relax and reflex. For those who didn't have a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Seasons-Greetings-Imprintable-Holiday-Envelopes/dp/B002PIJZUG?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">holiday</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B002PIJZUG" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, no worries; your time is coming.<br />
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Anyway, back to business, we start this year's post talking about money. Our dear presenters have for the last two days been basically talking about money. Should a woman have access to her husband's money? Should you pay back your spouse any money he/she lends you? And such like questions. We shall generalize. <br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>We know it, money is a major source of friction in any relationship especially in marriages. And this is especially so if the couple have different 'money-backgrounds'. What do I mean by 'money-background'? I mean how both of you think about money, your money attitudes (and not the abundance or lack of money). These money attitudes are developed over time, and are most likely passed on from parents (like many other things).<br />
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Communication is key when it comes to money. Yet many couples don't communicate. Maybe because of fear and worry. I don't know.<br />
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Trust is also key. Marriage is a commitment to carve a new life with another person. How this be done without trust? Chances are these listeners had trust broken somewhere along the line. <br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>The Bible is very clear in <b>Genesis 2:24</b><br />
<blockquote>That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become <b>one flesh</b>.</blockquote>And what is this why? The reason is in <b>Genesis 2:23</b><br />
<blockquote><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-54">23</sup> The man said, <br />
“This is now bone of my bones <br />
and flesh of my flesh; <br />
she shall be called ‘woman,’ <br />
for she was taken out of man.” </blockquote>So ideally, there is no <i>his</i> or <i>hers</i>. And I dare say there is even no <i>ours</i>. But it's <i>neithers</i>. God owns everything, even our money. We are mere stewards.<br />
<blockquote><b>Psalms 50:10-12 </b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-14679">10</sup> for every animal of the forest is mine, <br />
and the cattle on a thousand hills. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-14680">11</sup> I know every bird in the mountains, <br />
and the insects in the fields are mine. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-14681">12</sup> If I were hungry I would not tell you, <br />
for the world is mine, and all that is in it.</blockquote>So, you husbands and wives, don't be stingy. Provide for your family. Give freely. Give cheerfully. Harness trust. Communicate.<br />
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And you who are courting, get to know your money sense. Then know your partner's money sense. Then determine if they are compatible. <br />
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What a fitting time to talk about money as you plan your money resolutions. Have a prosperous 2011 and come December, give thanks to God.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-4117170892813408922010-11-29T16:26:00.001+03:002010-11-29T16:31:54.829+03:00Do arranged marriages work?After a short hiatus we are back—somewhat.<br />
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Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Joseph Kingangi were talking about <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Arranged-Marriage-Chitra-Banerjee-Divakaruni/dp/0385483503?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">arranged marriages</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0385483503" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />. Asians do it and even the President of Botswana wants his people to get him a wife. Mwalimu was of the opinion that arranged marriages work. So, do arranged marriages really work?<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2><b>Pure</b> arranged marriages are almost not there anymore. They, however, do still occur in some communities, like those up North or those with Asian origins. Why do I say 'Pure Arranged'?<br />
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Define an 'arranged' marriage. Is marrying because you had a child arranged? Is marrying because of society's pressure arranged? Is marrying because a clock somewhere is said to be ticking arranged? Is marrying because your friend introduced you to him or her arranged?<br />
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Think about it; we have more <i>'arranged' </i>marriages than we think.<br />
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Anyway, back to the question.<br />
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Well, I don't think arranged marriages per se work in our present society. We are too selfish and me-centered for such an arrangement to work. Maybe if we had more arranged marriages then we would be less selfish. Maybe given the rising divorce rates in non-arranged marriages we should give the arranging thing a try. I don't know. Some people argue that arranged marriages work because there is less expectation. You decide.<br />
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But what should be clear to all is that it's NOT the <i>arranged-ness </i>or not of a marriage that makes it succeed or fail. Among other things, unforgiveness, impatience, lack of affection, lack of communication, selfishness, infidelity, cruelty/violence, neglect et cetera cause marriages to fail.<br />
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In more ways than one, we all marry strangers. Whether we dated five minutes, five days, five months or five years. We all marry strangers. So it's up to you two to get to know each other and make it work.<br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>The Bible doesn't explicitly advocate for arranged marriages. What the Bible tells us is to look for certain qualities when looking for a wife or husband. This applies whether it is you looking or your parents/relatives looking. Then it goes ahead and tell us what to do once the 'one' has been found i.e. how to live as husband and wife. If we follow these instructions (some of which have been discussed here before) then the '<i>arranged-ness</i>'—or not—of the marriage doesn't matter.<br />
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Take Samson for example. He married for love,eh—lust and look where it got him.<br />
<blockquote><b>Judges 14:1-4</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-6911">1</sup> Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-6912">2</sup> When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-6913">3</sup> His father and mother replied, “<b>Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?</b>” <br />
But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.” <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-6914">4</sup> (His parents did not know that this was from the LORD, who was seeking an occasion to confront the Philistines; for at that time they were ruling over Israel.)<br />
<b>Much Later and after much hullabaloo, Judges 14:20</b><br />
20 And Samson’s wife was given to one of his companions who had attended him at the feast.</blockquote>Samson's parents were concerned about the fact that Samson's fiancee-to-be did not worship their God.<br />
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Similarly, not all 'arranged' marriages have good intentions. See how King Saul wanted to kill shepherd-now-warrior David using marriage as a trap from <b>1 Samuel 18:17-28</b> (This was a semi-arranged marriage)<br />
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<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7694">17</sup> Saul said to David, “Here is my older daughter Merab. <b>I will give her to you in marriage</b>; <b>only serve me bravely and fight the battles of the LORD</b>.” For Saul said to himself, “<b>I will not raise a hand against him. Let the Philistines do that!</b>” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7695">18</sup> But David said to Saul, “Who am I, and what is my family or my clan in Israel, that I should become the king’s son-in-law?” <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7696">19</sup> So when the time came for Merab, Saul’s daughter, to be given to David, she was given in marriage to Adriel of Meholah. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7697">20</sup> <b>Now Saul’s daughter Michal was in love with David</b>, and when they told Saul about it, he was pleased. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7698">21</sup> “I will give her to him,” he thought, “so that she may be a snare to him and so that the hand of the Philistines may be against him.” So Saul said to David, “Now you have a second opportunity to become my son-in-law.” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7699">22</sup> Then Saul ordered his attendants: “Speak to David privately and say, ‘<b>Look, the king likes you, and his attendants all love you; now become his son-in-law.’</b>” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7700">23</sup> They repeated these words to David. But David said, “Do you think it is a small matter to become the king’s son-in-law? I’m only a poor man and little known.” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7701">24</sup> When Saul’s servants told him what David had said, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7702">25</sup> Saul replied, “Say to David, ‘The king wants no other price for the bride than a hundred Philistine foreskins, to take revenge on his enemies.’” Saul’s plan was to have David fall by the hands of the Philistines. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7703">26</sup> When the attendants told David these things, he was pleased to become the king’s son-in-law. So before the allotted time elapsed, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7704">27</sup> David took his men with him and went out and killed two hundred Philistines and brought back their foreskins. They counted out the full number to the king so that David might become the king’s son-in-law. Then Saul gave him his daughter Michal in marriage. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7705">28</sup> When Saul realized that the LORD was with David and that his daughter Michal loved David, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7706">29</sup> Saul became still more afraid of him, and he remained his enemy the rest of his days. </blockquote>We are not told whether David loved Michal in return, but from future events we can deduce that lover boy David might have.<br />
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And how did that semi-arranged-and-for-the-wrong-purpose marriage end?<br />
<blockquote><b>2 Samuel 6:20-23</b> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-8178">20</sup> When David <b>returned home to bless his household</b>, Michal daughter of Saul came out to meet him and said, “How the king of Israel has distinguished himself today, going around half-naked in full view of the slave girls of his servants as any vulgar fellow would!” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-8179">21</sup> David said to Michal, “It was before the LORD, who chose me rather than your father or anyone from his house when he appointed me ruler over the LORD’s people Israel—I will celebrate before the LORD. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-8180">22</sup> I will become even more undignified than this, and I will be humiliated in my own eyes. But by these slave girls you spoke of, I will be held in honor.” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-8181">23</sup> <b>And Michal daughter of Saul had no children to the day of her death</b>. </blockquote>However, we have success stories of arranged marriages like that of <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=genesis%2024&version=NIV">Issac and Rebekah</a>. The point is that God intended marriage to be permanent, arranged or not.<br />
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Finally, for those who say that they cannot love someone 'arranged' for them, see what the Bible says about love, then think again.<br />
<blockquote><h4>1 Corinthians 13</h4> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28667">1</sup> If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28668">2</sup> If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28669">3</sup> If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28670">4</sup> Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28671">5</sup> It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28672">6</sup> Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28673">7</sup> It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28674">8</sup> Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28675">9</sup> For we know in part and we prophesy in part, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28676">10</sup> but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28677">11</sup> When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28678">12</sup> For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28679">13</sup> And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. </blockquote>With God, it's not mission impossible.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-15774716987336756272010-11-15T15:21:00.000+03:002010-11-15T15:21:32.895+03:00Should you help your eX?Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about women who cannot help their eX-boyfriends. Mwalimu was of the opinion that a man would never forget the help he receives. So they asked, 'does breaking up with someone mean that they don't deserve your help?'<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>You might be tempted to say that the answer to the above question depends on how you broke up. But the way I see it, the way you broke up doesn't matter. You should help your eX, whether friend or foe, where you can.<br />
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To put it in the most simplistic form: If your eX is an 'enemy' Jesus said love your enemies. If your eX is a 'friend' surely you would help out a friend, especially one you were madly in love with before, won't you?<br />
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However, there should be time to heal, from both sides, before help is asked or granted. Do you really expect to <i>sambaza</i> or be <i>sambazwad</i> anything if you just broke up the previous night? I don't know. <br />
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There can, nevertheless, be situations were help cannot be granted, for your own safety. For example, where violence or such-like law-breaking activities were involved. If you are now married and your eX wants njyes, please don't help. Please.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>It goes without saying that Christians should follow Christ's example.<br />
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Now, if there was a man who was seriously betrayed and abandoned by his 'friends' it was this man Jesus. Ever heard of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Painkiller-Judas-Priest/dp/B0000630BT?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Judas</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0000630BT" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> Iscariot? Or Simon Peter who denied Jesus 3 times?<br />
<blockquote><b>Matthew 26:14</b> <br />
<h5>Judas Agrees to Betray Jesus</h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-24069">14</sup> Then one of the Twelve—the one called Judas Iscariot—went to the chief priests <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-24070">15</sup> and asked, “What are you willing to give me if I deliver him over to you?” So they counted out for him thirty pieces of silver. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-24071">16</sup> From then on Judas watched for an opportunity to hand him over. <br />
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Then all the disciples deserted him and fled.<br />
<b>Peter denys Jesus, verse 74</b><br />
Then he began to call down curses, and he swore to them, “I don’t know the man!”<br />
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Immediately a rooster crowed. Then Peter remembered the word Jesus had spoken: “Before the rooster crows, you will disown me three times.” And he went outside and wept bitterly. </blockquote><br />
And as Jesus bore the sins of the world and descended to hell, even his father in heaven rejected him.<br />
<blockquote><b>Matthew 27:46</b> <br />
About three in the afternoon Jesus cried out in a loud voice, <span class="woj"><i>“Eli, Eli,</i> <i>lema</i> <i>sabachthani?”</i></span> (which means <span class="woj">“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”</span>).</blockquote>Yet—yet, after Jesus resurrected, see how he helped out Simon Peter, the Denier, and the Doubting Thomas.<br />
<blockquote><b>John 21:1-6</b><br />
<h5>Jesus and the Miraculous Catch of Fish</h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26900">1</sup> Afterward Jesus appeared again to his disciples, by the Sea of Galilee.<sup> </sup>It happened this way: <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26901">2</sup> Simon Peter, Thomas (also known as Didymus), Nathanael from Cana in Galilee, the sons of Zebedee, and two other disciples were together. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26902">3</sup> “I’m going out to fish,” Simon Peter told them, and they said, “We’ll go with you.” So they went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26903">4</sup> Early in the morning, Jesus stood on the shore, but the disciples did not realize that it was Jesus. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26904">5</sup> He called out to them, <span class="woj">“Friends, haven’t you any fish?”</span> <br />
“No,” they answered. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-26905">6</sup> He said, <span class="woj">“Throw your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some.”</span> When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish. </blockquote><br />
AND best of all, Jesus offered the ultimate sacrifice so that we humans (the eX in this case) could be reconciled with God.<br />
<blockquote><b>Romans 8:1-4</b><br />
Therefore, there is <b>now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus</b>, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28119">2</sup> because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28120">3</sup> For what the law was powerless to do because it was weakened by the flesh,<b> God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh to be a sin offering</b>.<sup> </sup>And so he condemned sin in the flesh, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28121">4</sup> in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fully met in us, who do not live according to the flesh but according to the Spirit. </blockquote><br />
Help an eX today. You never know.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-33537222195334989732010-11-10T20:44:00.000+03:002010-11-10T20:44:39.265+03:00Should Kenyan women drink 'Ooh-cohol'?Yesterday Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the Administration <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Police-Academy-1-4-Collection-Favorites/dp/B002GSXKPG?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Police</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B002GSXKPG" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> officer who killed 10 people in a love triangle drama. The AP is said to have been infected by HIV by his lover, who was roaming the bars of Siakago with another man. This story led our hosts to talk about women and alcohol. Apparently, the worst thing to have is a wife who drinks while you are a teetotaler. Mwalimu was of the opinion that a woman is worse off after excessive <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Seven-Weeks-Sobriety-Alcoholism-Nutrition/dp/0449002594?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">alcohol</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0449002594" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> intake. <br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>Our condolences to the innocent families that lost their loved ones. May God almighty comfort them in ways in which no human can.<br />
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Back to the alcohol business; Today I totally agree with Mwalimu.<br />
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Excessive consumption of alcohol is dangerous but more so to women due to their biology. We shall not even talk about the harmful effects of smoking in women. That's for another day. Also, studies have shown that <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Drinking-Love-Story-Caroline-Knapp/dp/0385315546?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">drinking</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0385315546" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> even in small amounts affect women differently than men. For instance, due to their metabolism, women generally get a higher alcohol-to-blood ratio after drinking an equivalent of alcohol as men.<br />
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Some of the effects of alcohol in women are but not limited to<br />
<ul><li>Increase in the risk of breast cancer, liver damage, brain damage, heart disease</li>
<li>Drinking by a pregnant woman can harm her unborn baby in what is known as fetal alcohol syndrome.</li>
<li>Increased chances of date rape and unplanned, harmful sexual behaviour. This was unanimously agreed upon by all the men who responded.</li>
<li>Increased risk of traffic accidents. A woman has a higher relative risk of causing a traffic accident or fatality than a man at similar blood alcohol level.</li>
<li>It's just not cool to see a woman in a ditch. </li>
</ul>It's quite clear that a woman suffers more than a man due to alcohol use and abuse.<br />
<ul></ul>Kenyan women, especially urbanites are notorious drinkers. They want to ape men yet they will suffer deadlier consequences. It's a sad state of affairs.<br />
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Woe unto you if you marry such a woman. Be warned. And not just for your sake but the sake of your future children. Else, don't be surprised if she bears you a three-armed <i>toto</i>.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>The Bible has quite a bit to say about <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Cure-Alcoholism-Willpower-Abstinence-Discomfort/dp/1933771550?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">alcohol</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1933771550" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, and some have been mentioned <a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/09/is-njyesual-performance-increased-under.html">here</a> before and I shall not repeat. Nevertheless, I shall leave you with one more verse.<br />
<blockquote><b>Proverbs 23: 31-32</b> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17076">31</sup> Do not gaze at wine when it is red, <br />
when it sparkles in the cup, <br />
when it goes down smoothly! <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17077">32</sup> In the end it bites like a snake <br />
and poisons like a viper. </blockquote><br />
Ladies and gentlemen take note. <br />
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<small><span style="color: #999999;">By the way, have you noticed how members of the Administration Police solve their problems violently? Say a pray for our disciplined forces will you? </span> </small>Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-24567181314610510482010-11-08T16:47:00.002+03:002010-11-09T08:30:14.125+03:00Are Kenyan women unapproachable?Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the way <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Music-From-Kenya-Volume-1/dp/B001BOYF6E?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Kenyan</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B001BOYF6E" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> women are <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Art-Approach-Guide-Meeting-Beautiful/dp/0977650529?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">unapproachable</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0977650529" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />. Mwalimu was of the opinion that Kenyan women are unapproachable when compared to their East African counterparts. Maina was of the opinion that Kenyan women are just principled.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>This is one is interesting. Here goes...<br />
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Both men and women play hard to get, but for different reasons and in different degrees.<br />
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A men will become unapproachable to appear more confident and/or intriguing. A women, however, will play hard-to-get as a filtering tool. Especially so when she gets many suitors. One thing women don't want to do is appear <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Desperado-Special-Antonio-Banderas/dp/B0000A2ZU1?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">desperate</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0000A2ZU1" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />. (that's why the hullabaloo caused by the <a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/09/single-women-how-desperate-can-you-get.html">singles' prayer meeting</a> with one Naija preacher man caused a sensational media frenzy) But with many (real or imagined) potential suitors, a women needs a way to filter the chaff (sissies who flee at the slightest sign of resistance or trouble) from the grain.<br />
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Anyway, it's not about principles. Think traffic lights. <br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KBkehq17ggQ/TNfj_zxFMAI/AAAAAAAAACY/VC_fKXeF1Ls/s1600/traffic.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KBkehq17ggQ/TNfj_zxFMAI/AAAAAAAAACY/VC_fKXeF1Ls/s200/traffic.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>However, like traffic lights, the <span style="color: red;">STOP</span> or <span style="color: orange;">UM, I DON'T KNOW</span> stages must come to an end at some point. Or the suitor(s) will move on.<br />
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Truth is, very attractive women usually get approached by womanizers and other such men of ill intent who want to just roll in the hay. Genuine men usually get intimidated and come up with topics like today's instead of man-ing up and pursuing—persistently.<br />
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So are Kenyan women unapproachable? I don't so. <br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2><div class="MsoNormal">I tried to find a woman who played hard-to-get in the Bible but couldn't come up with a convincing example. Those days there was nothing like being unapproachable. If a man wanted, he went after (sometimes with disastrous effects like Amnon and Tamar). Period.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Anyway, I think the point here today is about courage and persistency and endurance.</div><blockquote><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Deut 31:6</b> Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. </div></blockquote>Patience is loosely translated from a Greek word that means endurance or perseverance.<br />
<blockquote><b>Hebrews 12:1</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30214">1</sup> Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us <b>run with perseverance</b> the race marked out for us, </blockquote><br />
Finally, I leave you with the parable of the persistent widow from <b>Luke 18:1-4</b><br />
<blockquote><h5>The Parable of the Persistent Widow</h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25690">1</sup> Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25691">2</sup> He said: <span class="woj">“In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25692">3</sup> And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25693">4</sup> “<b>For some time he refused</b>. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think,</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25694">5</sup> yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’”</span> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25695">6</sup> And the Lord said, <span class="woj">“Listen to what the unjust judge says.</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25696">7</sup> And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, <b>who cry out to him day and night</b>? Will he keep putting them off?</span> <span class="woj"><sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-25697">8</sup> I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?”</span> </blockquote><div class="MsoNormal"></div>Nothing good comes without resistance.<br />
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<div style="color: #999999;"><small>By the way, if you come across a woman who played hard-to-get and unapproachable in the Bible let me know</small></div>Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-85441745922088533102010-11-05T15:59:00.001+03:002010-11-05T15:59:56.337+03:00Should mothers care who marries their daughters?Yesterday Maina and Mwalimu were talking about mothers who have vested interest in the person their daughter choose to marry. Some mothers only look for ambitious men with future prospects to marry their daughters. Mwalimu was of the opinion that potential suitors should not be judged, the same way we shouldn't judge a book by its cover<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion </h2>Basically, our hosts were asking whether mothers should care who their daughters choose to marry? And the simple answer is yes.<br />
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Off course, a mother will vet, either explicitly or implicitly, the men courting her daughter(s). It's mother nature. And whereas it's true some may have selfish reasons, most of the time they are looking out for their daughters. They don't want their daughters to end up with a wife-basher, or a hopeless drunk, or a poor man with no signs of progress in the future (I repeat, 'with no signs of progress in the future'), or an overtly unfaithful man. Would you?<br />
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Therefore, if the man has proven worthy (and he has to prove himself worthy) then there should be no reason for a mother to deny her daughter her blessings and go-ahead.<br />
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It's true, we shouldn't judge a book by its cover, but by it's 'insides'. The man should show the 'insides' so as not to be judged wrongly. <br />
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<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>Lets consider Naomi and Ruth. Ruth, the Moabite, was Naomi's daughter-in-law. She (Ruth) had lost her husband. However, she decided to follow her <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Mother-Wedding-Ideas-Italian-Charm/dp/B0002H7CQQ?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">mother-in-law</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0002H7CQQ" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> instead of going back to her homeland. On reaching Naomi's home, she decided to go 'exploring'-with her mother's blessings off course.<br />
<blockquote><b> Ruth 2:2</b><br />
And Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi, “Let me go to the fields and pick up the leftover grain behind anyone in whose eyes I find favor.” <br />
Naomi said to her, “Go ahead, my daughter.”</blockquote>As Ruth went on 'exploring' she stumbled upon a field belonging to a dude called Boaz, who happened to be Naomi's relative. Boaz allowed Ruth to work in his field and even gave her special treatment like offering her security from the 'boys' in the field. Ruth returned home and <b>told</b> Naomi about her 'explorations'<br />
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<blockquote><b> Ruth 2:17-22</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7167">17</sup> So Ruth gleaned in the field until evening. Then she threshed the barley she had gathered, and it amounted to about an ephah. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7168">18</sup> She carried it back to town, and her mother-in-law saw how much she had gathered. Ruth also brought out and gave her what she had left over after she had eaten enough. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7169">19</sup> Her mother-in-law asked her, “Where did you glean today? Where did you work? Blessed be the man who took notice of you!” <br />
Then Ruth told her mother-in-law about the one at whose place she had been working. “The name of the man I worked with today is <b>Boaz</b>,” she said. <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7170">20</sup> “The LORD bless him!” Naomi said to her daughter-in-law. “<b>He has not stopped showing his kindness to the living and the dead.</b>” She added, “<b>That man is our close relative; he is one of our guardian-redeemers</b>.<span style="color: red;">***</span> <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7171">21</sup> Then Ruth the Moabite said, “He even said to me, ‘Stay with my workers until they finish harvesting all my grain.’” <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-7172">22</sup> Naomi said to Ruth her daughter-in-law, “<b>It will be good for you, my daughter, to go with the women who work for him, because in someone else’s field you might be harmed.</b>” </blockquote><br />
From the above story we can see clearly that Naomi had an interest in who Ruth was hanging out with. Was the man of good character? (v.20) Was the man eligible to marry Ruth? (v.20) Was it safe for Ruth to hang out with this man and his crew? (v.22) <br />
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<span style="color: red;">*** </span>Guardian redeemer is a legal term for one who has the obligation to redeem a relative in serious difficulty (see Lev. 25:25-55)<br />
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So, it's not a bad thing for mothers to be concerned about who their daughters will marry. <br />
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Besides, we are commanded to obey our parents, in the Lord.<br />
<blockquote><b>Ephesians 6:1-3</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-29339">1</sup> Children, obey your parents <b>in the Lord</b>, for this is right. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-29340">2</sup> “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-29341">3</sup> “<b>so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth</b>.” </blockquote>So if the advice they give you is Biblically sound then you best heed it. True story.Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-64345533094134252922010-11-03T15:06:00.001+03:002010-11-03T15:08:40.862+03:00Should njyes talk be removed from the Classic105 morning show?Today, as Nick Odhiambo and Mwalimu Kingangi were hustling in the studio, Maina wa Kageni was at the Communications Commission of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Copper-Moon-Coffee-Medium-12-Ounce/dp/B001EPQ06I?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Kenya</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B001EPQ06I" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />. Why? Maina was summoned by CCK and told that he had 6 months to change the format of his morning show otherwise Classic 105 FM would be shutdown!<br />
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So the important question for today is should pale pale and njyes topics be removed from the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/3pcs-Rolling-Breakfast-Table-Stools/dp/B001ULZ54Y?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">breakfast</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B001ULZ54Y" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> show?<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>Well, I had to recheck the date just to make sure that it wasn't April 1st.<br />
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Anyway, truth be told Maina's show is extremely popular because of its controversial topics. Controversy sells. (see how I carefully didn't say sex sells?)<br />
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Remove pale pale topics and rating will take a nose dive. The show will be boring. The boss will be on Maina's case. Maina will loose his job. Kingangi will actually start teaching. Classic 105 will become a classic. The list is endless.<br />
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We Kenyans are very hypocritical. We shout and complain about Maina's show yet tune-in in the privacy of our cars/homes. And don't tell me about being forced to listen to the show while in a matatu.<br />
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If you were really bothered by it then you would take active measures (and not sit passively praying to God that the driver will switch the station or that your stop comes sooner) e.g.<br />
<ul><li>Politely ask the driver to switch the station </li>
<li>Avoid the <i>mathrees</i> that play Classic</li>
<li>Take the mathree earlier so that you and your kids are out by 8:00am (and you should be if you operate a 8-5 gig) so that you avoid the show. Or take the mathree after 10am, and don't tune in for the repeat in the evening.</li>
<li>Carry head/earphones (or even earplugs)</li>
<li>Call, SMS or write to refute, rebuke, reclaim or retaliate to any of the topics discussed, with your own opinion.<br />
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</ul>As for CCK, they are just doing their job. Regulating.<br />
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Maybe Maina should think of a late night show instead.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>I'm not sure that there's a Biblical opinion. The only thing I can think of is that there is a time and place for everything under the Sun.<br />
<blockquote><h5>Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 A Time for Everything</h5> <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17361">1</sup> There is a time for everything, <br />
and a season for every activity under the heavens: <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17362">2</sup> a time to be born and a time to die, <br />
a time to plant and a time to uproot, <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17363">3</sup> a time to kill and a time to heal, <br />
a time to tear down and a time to build, <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17364">4</sup> a time to weep and a time to laugh, <br />
a time to mourn and a time to <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Dance-Fitness-Beginners-MaDonna-Grimes/dp/B0006H31SU?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">dance</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0006H31SU" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17365">5</sup> a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, <br />
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17366">6</sup> a time to search and a time to give up, <br />
a time to keep and a time to throw away, <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17367">7</sup> a time to tear and a time to mend, <br />
a time to be silent and a time to <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Public-Speaking-Handbook-Study-Myspeechlab/dp/020546064X?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">speak</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=020546064X" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />, <br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-17368">8</sup> a time to love and a time to hate, <br />
a time for war and a time for peace. </blockquote>Taking about njyes is in itself not bad. However, where and when plays a big role. Moreover, the show never offers any solutions and many a time the topics are left open-ended. The first place the devil attacks is the family. And in the family, the first attack is on the marriage. And in the marriage the first attack is on the sexual life of the married couple. So there is need to discuss family matters. It is important for all of us and especially Christians to understand what the Bible teaches about the family, and to put it into practice in their respective homes.<br />
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Destroy the family, society crumbles.<br />
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Anywho, Maina and crew should realize that some people may be—genuinely—offended by the topics and as such issue a disclaimer every so often (say every 10 minutes). Like the one below<br />
<blockquote>Listener discretion is advised. The following program contains mature subject matter and is suitable for adults only. If you are easily offended by such please switch the station-NOW ! If you are easily offended by liberal presenters with loose morals please switch the station-NOW! For the rest of you, enjoy the show.</blockquote><br />
Finally (and it could be finally literally) the main reason this blog exists is to give Maina's listeners practical solutions to the topics discussed from a Biblical point of view. <br />
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Therefore, if indeed Classic's breakfast show changes it's current format, chances are this blog as we know it will cease to exist.<br />
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But don't worry, another station or another forum will sprout forth to satisfy this niche. Because we truly need to discuss 'this'.<br />
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Traditionally, the parents and other close relatives like aunts, uncles and grandparents had the responsibility of passing life lessons to the upcoming generations. But this is sadly decreasing. That's why 'this' has to be taught and discussed in other forums.<br />
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And 'this' is not going away anytime soon.<br />
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<small>On a different, random tangent, if you had six months to live, what would you do?——Don't answer!</small>Classic 105 Reviewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12469215470438099127noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45467911509618636.post-49396387199271091262010-11-02T15:18:00.000+03:002010-11-02T15:18:54.769+03:00Should a woman look for a soul-mate outside her tribe?Yesterday, Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Joseph Kingangi were talking about women who look outside their community when looking for a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Soul-Mates-Thomas-Moore/dp/0060925752?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">soul-mate</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0060925752" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />. So our hosts were asking why. Mwalimu was of the opinion that these women didn't know what they were missing and would definitely come back.<br />
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<h2>My Human Opinion</h2>Looking for a 'soul-mate' from a tribal perspective only is being shortsighted to say the least. Okay, a good number of our parents and grandparents married within the tribe, but this is because they grew up around the same 'tribes-people'.<br />
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Now, for someone born and/or raised in a metropolis like Nairobi or Mombasa to insist on looking for the same tribes-person only to marry is shortsighted. <br />
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It is said that the relationships that last longest are those were the partners are very similar i.e. similar backgrounds, similar looks (a 10 with a 10 or 9 and not a 10 with a 5 etc), similar education, similar belief system (more of that below), similar outlook to life, similar life-situations (e.g. both are HIV positive etc) and so on. But we all know that life is a rocky road. Similarities change.<br />
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Anyway, note that I use the word <b>similar</b> loosely.<br />
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Other qualities you should look for in a partner have been mention <a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/09/single-ladies-what-kind-of-man-are-you.html">here</a> and <a href="http://classic105.blogspot.com/2010/09/kenyan-men-what-qualities-do-you-look.html">here</a>.<br />
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Therefore, there is nothing with marrying within or without your tribe. But don't let that be your only criteria. That would be sad.<br />
<h2>My Biblical Opinion</h2>God, in the Old Testament, instructed the Israelites not to marry from the neighbouring communities. However, this was not because of racial or tribal reasons but rather because the neighbouring communities worshiped idols and would as such lead the Israelites away.<br />
<blockquote><b>Deut 7:1-4</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-5113">1</sup> When the LORD your God brings you into the land you are entering to possess and drives out before you many nations—the Hittites, Girgashites, Amorites, Canaanites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites, seven nations larger and stronger than you— <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-5114">2</sup> and when the LORD your God has delivered them over to you and you have defeated them, then you must destroy them totally.<sup> </sup>Make no treaty with them, and show them no mercy. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-5115">3</sup> Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-5116">4</sup><b> for they will turn your children away from following me to serve other gods</b>, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you. </blockquote>Remember that the Israelites had just come out of slavery and were at a very weak place 'emotionally'. Even one of these —ites could have led the Israelites astray.<br />
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God does not show partiality or favouritism. Neither should we.<br />
<blockquote><b>Deut 10:17</b> For the LORD your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great God, mighty and awesome, who shows no partiality and accepts no bribes. </blockquote>However, God does instruct us not to be unequally yoked. i.e. a believer to a non-believer. And that should be the starting point when you are looking for a 'soul-mate'.<br />
<blockquote><b>2 Corinthians 6:14-16a</b><br />
<sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28913">14</sup> Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28914">15</sup> What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-28915">16</sup> What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. </blockquote>Even the word 'soul-mate' suggests that the soul should be similar or near similar. Mate means match. So <i>jijazie</i> what <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Edgar-Cayce-Soul-Mates-Attraction/dp/0876044151?ie=UTF8&tag=classic105blo-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">soul-mate</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=classic105blo-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0876044151" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" /> means.<br />
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All God's favour and wisdom as you search for your soul-mate if you haven't already.<br />
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