When the wife is the breadwinner who is the looser?

For the last few days, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu have been discussing about women who are the main breadwinners in their homes. Should the husband keep off the wife's money? Should the husband live according to his or his wife's means? As always, money matters are sensitive. There is no one-size-fits-all answer. Just opinions.

Is it official or not?

Finally, Maina wa Kageni is launching his website soon, a little bit too late I must say. But he is using the Classic 105 feed from Home.co.ke.

I thought he would have access to an audio stream that is direct, straight from the frying pan?

I guess I thought wrong. Let's wait and see.

Tales of mama's boy

Yesterday our hosts at Classic 105 were talking about mamas' boys. A certain caller called in to say that she knew of a lady who lives with her 47-year old son. Mwalimu was of the opinion that such mothers are messing up with boys such that they (the 'boys') become undatable and unmarriable. So they were asking whether such mothers are over-spoiling their sons.

My Human Opinion

I totally agree with Mwalimu Kingangi on this one. Four-seven years, and still at home!! Even someone half that age should not still be living with their parents. Woi! It is indeed sad seeing a man refusing to grow up.

There is no excuse this man or such like him can give. At the very, very least, he should move out of the 'main' house to the 'extension' or SQ.

Ummarriable? Consider this. If a man can't take care of himself, who will he take of?

My Biblical Opinion

Jacob is the first guy that pops to mind when I think of a mama's boy from the Bible.

Genesis 25:27-28
27 The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was content to stay at home among the tents. 28 Isaac, who had a taste for wild game, loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob.

However, do not, even for an instant, assume that Jacob was a sissy. Yes, he liked cooking and hanging around the kitchen. But he physically wrestled with God. And could have won if God didn't zap his hip.

Anyway, the Bible is very clear from the beginning how things should go down.

Genesis 2:24
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

I need not say more. Man, go find a wife.

Tell me, who's fooling who?

Today is Fools' Day. And as such we shall fool each other by combining the last two Day's topics into one—and no one will be the wiser.

Yesterday, akina Maina and crew were talking about njyes training for men, a topic that was discussed until late in the night on 'fakebook'.

Today, they are talking about how many Kenyan women complain about how Kenyan men are 'useless'.

Danger...again!

Our dear hosts at classic 105 seem to be running out of topics to talk about. I can give them suggestions if they are interested though.

For the past two days, they have been talking about polygamy, read Akuku Danger.

Well, click here for the previous post about Akuku Danger.

Do beautiful women make good wives?

Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about beautiful women. Apparently, there are beautiful women who know that they are beautiful such that some men claim that they cannot make good wives. Mwalimu said that such women can show you proper matharau.

Do Kenyan single women intimidate single Kenyan men?

Yesterday, our hosts were talking about single women. Apparently, there are single Kenyan women who are undateable and intimidate Kenyan men to the point that they (the single women) cannot be approached.

This topic has somewhat being discussed here before.

Here are some previous related posts,

• Are Kenyan women unapproachable?
• Desperate Single Women?
• Qualities a woman looks for in a man.
• Qualities a man looks for in a woman 

A woman who lends money...

Yesterday, our hosts were talking about money. Apparently, when you borrow money from your wife/girlfriend, you should never misuse it nor fail to pay it back. Mwalimu Kingangi insisted that borrowing money from your woman was not a good idea and could lead to painful results.

Are rich Kenyan men stingy?

Yesterday, our hosts were talking about rich Kenyan men. Apparently rich Kenyan men are very stingy with their money. They will spend money buying a house or paying rent, a car, a holiday, on school fees but will never give you hard cash. True?

The Day for Women to...

Today is the International Women's Day. Therefore, our hosts today were inviting the women to take this opportunity and tell the men exactly what they want.

My Human Opinion

Today we celebrate women. Mothers, wives, sisters, girlfriends, daughters, all women of the world. We salute you.

Now come on dear peoples. That question cannot be answered—exactly. What do women want? Everything? Nothing? Anything? Something? Who knows, even women are sometimes not sure what they want. I won't even offer an opinion here. Let's just read what the Bible says.

My Biblical Opinion

Genesis 1:26a and 27b
Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominionover the fish of the sea...
So God created created man in His own image...male and female He created them.

In a nutshell, we are made in God's image. So, in the beginning, before the fall of mankind, our 'want' was to worship and fellowship with God.

Ecclesiastes 12:13
Let us hear the conclusion of the matter:
Fear God and keep His commandments. For this is man's all.

However, we don't usually keep to this 'conclusion'!

And this leads me to what women want. Are you ready?

Genesis 3:16
To the woman He said:
"I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you."

Well, this verse is usually misinterpreted, however, this is my take.
Women will desire relationships, read husband in the verse. She will desire to rule over her relationships, read husband. But her relationships, read husband, will rule over her. Rule in the sense of decisions, time, emotions, and in some cases rule quite literally.

Does this explain why women have difficulties in their relationships with men? I don't know.
But the conclusion of the matter is; whether you know what women want or not, celebrate the women in you life.

Maid of honour?

Today, Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about maids. Apparently a lot of married women are letting the maids take over in terms of cooking, cleaning and raising the kids. Mwalimu was of the opinion that when a woman let's the maid take over, their value diminishes.

Does getting born again mean you stop njyes?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the situation when your spouse gets 'too saved' that they take some of your marital privileges, aka freaky njyes or no njyes. Should you accept this and adjust to their new life?

Can you tell someone's wallet-size by looking at them?

The other day, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about ladies who apparently can tell the size of a man's wallet the minute they see you. Within the first few minutes, they can tell whether the man is a winner or a loser. Maina and Mwalimu also wanted to know if their initial judgment turned out to be true.

Tycoon-seekers vs Tycoon-fakers

Yesterday, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about a story in one of the daily newspapers. Apparently, women who are looking for 'financially stable' men sometimes end up finding men who are fake tycoons. What gives?

Marriage pressure or just nice reminders?

Yesterday, Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Joseph were talking about a certain story in one of the daily newspapers. There was a certain lady who was complaining about the pressure from parents, relatives, workmates and friends to get married. Mwalimu was of the opinion that that is not pressure, but nice reminders. So they wanted to know if single women, especially those above 30, were under pressure to marry. And if they were, how did/do they handle the pressure. And is it anyone's business when and if they get married.

Magnet Men

Yesterday, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about magnet men aka chic magnets. Mwalimu was of the opinion that every man is a magnet. So they were asking what it takes to be a woman magnet and what makes women go after such men.

Money: A curious case of Njiru's Sammy

We continue talking about money. Today the topic was about whether a woman is justified in taking half a man's money when they divorce. And on the spotlight was one case of Olympian magnitude involving Sammy wa (belonging to) Njiru that has been taking us for a marathon.

Money: Is it his or hers or theirs?

Happy New Year dear friends. I hope you enjoyed the holiday season and took time to relax and reflex. For those who didn't have a holiday, no worries; your time is coming.

Anyway, back to business, we start this year's post talking about money. Our dear presenters have for the last two days been basically talking about money. Should a woman have access to her husband's money? Should you pay back your spouse any money he/she lends you? And such like questions. We shall generalize.