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Monday, November 8, 2010

Are Kenyan women unapproachable?

Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the way Kenyan women are unapproachable. Mwalimu was of the opinion that Kenyan women are unapproachable when compared to their East African counterparts. Maina was of the opinion that Kenyan women are just principled.

Random thought—Do you notice how njyes talk has reduced on this show?

My Human Opinion

This is one is interesting. Here goes...

Both men and women play hard to get, but for different reasons and in different degrees.

A men will become unapproachable to appear more confident and/or intriguing. A women, however, will play hard-to-get as a filtering tool. Especially so when she gets many suitors. One thing women don't want to do is appear desperate. (that's why the hullabaloo caused by the singles' prayer meeting with one Naija preacher man caused a sensational media frenzy) But with many (real or imagined) potential suitors, a women needs a way to filter the chaff (sissies who flee at the slightest sign of resistance or trouble) from the grain.

Anyway, it's not about principles. Think traffic lights.
However, like traffic lights, the STOP or UM, I DON'T KNOW stages must come to an end at some point. Or the suitor(s) will move on.

Truth is, very attractive women usually get approached by womanizers and other such men of ill intent who want to just roll in the hay. Genuine men usually get intimidated and come up with topics like today's instead of man-ing up and pursuing—persistently.

So are Kenyan women unapproachable? I don't so.

My Biblical Opinion

I tried to find a woman who played hard-to-get in the Bible but couldn't come up with a convincing example. Those days there was nothing like being unapproachable. If a man wanted, he went after (sometimes with disastrous effects like Amnon and Tamar). Period.

Anyway, I think the point here today is about courage and persistency and endurance.
Deut 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.
Patience is loosely translated from a Greek word that means endurance or perseverance.
Hebrews 12:1
1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,

Finally, I leave you with the parable of the persistent widow from Luke 18:1-4
The Parable of the Persistent Widow
 1 Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. 2 He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. 3 And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’    4For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, 5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’”
 6 And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says. 7 And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? 8 I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?”
Nothing good comes without resistance.

By the way, if you come across a woman who played hard-to-get and unapproachable in the Bible let me know

2 comments:

hal said...

Hey, Please read the stories of Samson's women. A few played hard to get though mainly for various (and at times non-relationship) issues.

Classic 105 Reviews said...

That's true, the reasons that made a woman play hard to get were usually non-relationship reasons e.g. cultural barriers etc