Should you help your eX?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu  Kingangi were talking about women who cannot help their eX-boyfriends. Mwalimu was of the opinion that a man would never forget the help he receives. So they asked, 'does breaking up with someone mean that they don't deserve your help?'

My Human Opinion

You might be tempted to say that the answer to the above question depends on how you broke up. But the way I see it, the way you broke up doesn't matter. You should help your eX, whether friend or foe, where you can.

To put it in the most simplistic form: If your eX is an 'enemy' Jesus said love your enemies. If your eX is a 'friend' surely you would help out a friend, especially one you were madly in love with before, won't you?

However, there should be time to heal, from both sides, before help is asked or granted. Do you really expect to sambaza or be sambazwad anything if you just broke up the previous night? I don't know.

There can, nevertheless, be situations were help cannot be granted, for your own safety. For example, where violence or such-like law-breaking activities were involved. If you are now married and your eX wants njyes, please don't help. Please.

My Biblical Opinion

It goes without saying that Christians should follow Christ's example.

Now, if there was a man who was seriously betrayed and abandoned by his 'friends' it was this man Jesus. Ever heard of Judas Iscariot? Or Simon Peter who denied Jesus 3 times?

Matthew 26:14

Judas Agrees to Betray Jesus

 ¹⁴ Then one of the Twelve—the one called Judas Iscariot—went to the chief priests ¹⁵ and asked, “What are you willing to give me if I deliver him over to you?” So they counted out for him thirty pieces of silver. ¹⁶ From then on Judas watched for an opportunity to hand him over.
Verse 56b
Then all the disciples deserted him and fled.
Peter denys Jesus, verse 74
Then he began to call down curses, and he swore to them, “I don’t know the man!”

Immediately a rooster crowed. Then Peter remembered the word Jesus had spoken: “Before the rooster crows, you will disown me three times.” And he went outside and wept bitterly.

And as Jesus bore the sins of the world and descended to hell, even his father in heaven rejected him.

Matthew 27:46
About three in the afternoon Jesus cried out in a loud voice, “Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?” (which means “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”).

Yet—yet, after Jesus resurrected, see how he helped out Simon Peter, the Denier, and the Doubting Thomas.

John 21:1-6

Jesus and the Miraculous Catch of Fish

 ¹ Afterward Jesus appeared again to his disciples, by the Sea of Galilee. It happened this way: ² Simon Peter, Thomas (also known as Didymus), Nathanael from Cana in Galilee, the sons of Zebedee, and two other disciples were together. ³ “I’m going out to fish,” Simon Peter told them, and they said, “We’ll go with you.” So they went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing.  ⁴ Early in the morning, Jesus stood on the shore, but the disciples did not realize that it was Jesus.
 ⁵ He called out to them, “Friends, haven’t you any fish?”
   “No,” they answered.
 ⁶ He said, “Throw your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some.” When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish.

AND best of all, Jesus offered the ultimate sacrifice so that we humans (the eX in this case) could be reconciled with God.

Romans 8:1-4
  Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, ² because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. ³ For what the law was powerless to do because it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh to be a sin offering. And so he condemned sin in the flesh, ⁴ in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fully met in us, who do not live according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

Help an eX today. You never know.