Tycoon-seekers vs Tycoon-fakers

Yesterday, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about a story in one of the daily newspapers. Apparently, women who are looking for 'financially stable' men sometimes end up finding men who are fake tycoons. What gives?

My Human Opinion

Obviously women look for some form of stability in men. Emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, social and economical. So that is not news. However, many do insist on the economic stability, sometimes without even looking at the other aspects of the man.

So, obviously, any man looking to put such a woman 'in the box' will work on the economic aspect of his game only. Faking it if necessary—until she is in the 'box'.

Who or what is to blame? Fear? Worry? Greed? Ignorance? Pride? I don't know. Do you?

Some say (I won't say who) that women of low IQ and/or social standing are most likely to look at a man's financial stability while neglecting all other qualities (or lack thereof) of the said man. They see such men as the only way to financial security unlike their smarter working class counterparts who have other options.

All I can say is that both tycoon-seeker and the tycoon-faker will soon get exposed for who they really are.

Who knows, they both might deserve each other after all.

My Biblical Opinion

There is nothing wrong with seeking a financially stable partner. However, you need to check your true motives. Besides, the Bible advices us not to store our treasures here, for where your treasure is so is your heart.

Matthew 6: 19-21
   “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

And to you, man or woman, who is worrying about financial stability either yours or your prospective partner, listen to what the Bible says.

Matthew 6: 25-34

Do Not Worry

    ²⁵ “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? ²⁶ Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? ²⁷ Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?    ²⁸ “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. ²⁹ Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. ³⁰ If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? ³¹ So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ ³² For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. ³³ But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. ³⁴ Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Now, lying usually has it's roots in fear or pride. In this case both apply. Fear of rejection. Male pride/ego. You name it.

Therefore, tycoon-fakers, hear ye what the Bible says about lying.

Proverbs 6: 16-19 

¹⁶ There are six things the LORD hates,
   seven that are detestable to him:
    ¹⁷ haughty eyes,
      a lying tongue,
      hands that shed innocent blood,
    ¹⁸ a heart that devises wicked schemes,
      feet that are quick to rush into evil,
    ¹⁹ a false witness who pours out lies
      and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.

Colossians 3:9-10
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.

 Seek ye first the Kingdom of God.