Do arranged marriages work?

After a short hiatus we are back—somewhat.

Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Joseph Kingangi were talking about arranged marriages. Asians do it and even the President of Botswana wants his people to get him a wife. Mwalimu was of the opinion that arranged marriages work. So, do arranged marriages really work?

Should you help your eX?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu  Kingangi were talking about women who cannot help their eX-boyfriends. Mwalimu was of the opinion that a man would never forget the help he receives. So they asked, 'does breaking up with someone mean that they don't deserve your help?'

Should Kenyan women drink 'Ooh-cohol'?

Yesterday Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the Administration Police officer who killed 10 people in a love triangle drama. The AP is said to have been infected by HIV by his lover, who was roaming the bars of Siakago with another man. This story led our hosts to talk about women and alcohol. Apparently, the worst thing to have is a wife who drinks while you are a teetotaler. Mwalimu was of the opinion that a woman is worse off after excessive alcohol intake.

Are Kenyan women unapproachable?

Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the way Kenyan women are unapproachable. Mwalimu was of the opinion that Kenyan women are unapproachable when compared to their East African counterparts. Maina was of the opinion that Kenyan women are just principled.

Random thought—Do you notice how njyes talk has reduced on this show?

Should mothers care who marries their daughters?

Yesterday Maina and Mwalimu were talking about mothers who have vested interest in the person their daughter choose to marry. Some mothers only look for ambitious men with future prospects to marry their daughters. Mwalimu was of the opinion that potential suitors should not be judged, the same way we shouldn't judge a book by its cover

Should njyes talk be removed from the Classic105 morning show?

Today, as Nick Odhiambo and Mwalimu Kingangi were hustling in the studio, Maina wa Kageni was at the Communications Commission of Kenya. Why? Maina was summoned by CCK and told that he had 6 months to change the format of his morning show otherwise Classic 105 FM would be shutdown!

So the important question for today is should pale pale and njyes topics be removed from the breakfast show?

Should a woman look for a soul-mate outside her tribe?

Yesterday, Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Joseph Kingangi were talking about women who look outside their community when looking for a soul-mate. So our hosts were asking why. Mwalimu was of the opinion that these women didn't know what they were missing and would definitely come back.

Njyes performance after 50

Today Maina and Mwalimu were talking about njyes performance after 50. Mwalimu was of the opinion that men peak to 50 and women with husbands over 50 knew their men very well and knew how to manage their performance. They asked two questions, was it true that men over 50 need something extra to perform? And would the men take offense if your lady suggested that they use Viagra?

What would make a woman like Grace Mugabe stray?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu King'ang'i were talking about Bob Mugabe's cheating wife, Grace. Mwalimu argued that Mugabe is a handsome (what??), educated alpha-male and gave Grace everything a woman would ever want materially. Yet she betrayed the man who made all this possible. So the questions were, women, what else would you want? What would make a woman like Grace Mugabe disGrace (pun intended) her husband by straying?

Are women of the 'red-thigh' dangerous?

Yesterday, Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the 'red-thigh-ed' women from a story in one of the Dailies. Apparently, the men who end up with these women end up dying. So our hosts asked the all important question, 'do you believe this red thigh business?'

Behind every successful woman is a...?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about how women are buying more cars, houses and property than men. Mwalimu was of the opinion that that was to be expected and it would have been impossible to achieve that without the help of a man, the unseen, unheard, unappreciated shujaa (hero)!

Training a good husband. Was tradition unfair to men?

Yesterday Maina wa Kageni and Joseph wa Kingangi were talking about unfairness in tradition. In our African cultural traditions, women are always advised by their mothers, peers and aunts on how to be a good wife. But these same cultures have ignored the men. There is no course on how to be a good husband. Mwalimu was of the opinion that being a husband comes naturally and gave the example of the animal kingdom.

Divine Health; Divine Healing

Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi have taken a welcome break from their usual topic(s). It was (about) to get monotonous quoting and re-quoting the same Bible verses again and again and again and—(see what I mean?).

Today they were talking about health, especially the Human Papillomavirus (HPV), which leads to, among others, cervical cancer. The show was very educative.

However, we shall take it a step higher and talk about divine healing.

The marriage constitution

Yesterday and today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about constitutions. Apparently there is a man in Nyeri who wrote a constitution for his family. Our hosts therefore wanted both the male and female views so that we could draft a constitution for marriage and relationships.

Let's draft some thing shall we?

Can women live in harmony in a polygamous marriage?

Today Maina wa Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about polygamy. Rather, they were talking about the late Ancentus Akuku aka 'Danger', Kenya's most 'celebrated' polygamist. That Mzee's story is amazing. Anyway, back to our topic. Mwalimu was of the opinion that the modern woman should borrow a thing or two from Akuku in terms of agreeing to live in harmony. Then our dear hosts asked what lesson we have all learned.

Let's learn...

Should you help your extended family financially?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about family. They referred to a story in the daily Star newspaper where a Chinese billionaire pledged his wealth to charity yet his brother was a security guard and the sister a dishwasher. So Maina and Mwalimu wanted to know, does one owe their family when you are wealthy? Mwalimu was of the opinion that it's everyman for himself when it comes to wealth. Let's discuss.

P.S: Yesterday's topic was almost a repetition and was not discussed.

Men, is it true that who you court isn't who you marry?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about lying women. Mwalimu claimed that women are the biggest liars. Furthermore, he said that the woman a man courts is not the same woman after marriage. She meta morphs into someone else all together. As such, Mwalimu said that men get a raw deal when they get married. So our dear presenters were asking, do women change after marriage?

Why do men lie during courtship?

Today Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about the lies men tell during courtship. Mwalimu was of the opinion that lying is part of the courtship game used by men to demonstrate their potential as a mate and as such not be called lying. Let's discuss.

Why are 'Foreigners' so alluring?

Yesterday, Nick Odhiambo was filling in for Maina Kageni. Nick and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about how Kenyan women compare Kenyan men to foreign men and in most cases the Kenyan man falls short. So why is 'foreign' so alluring?

Njyes home and away inconsistency

Today we will keep it short and let the Bible do the talking. You'll see why in just a bit.

Maina and Joseph Kingangi were talking about a certain inconsistency. There are some wives who complain about their husbands' njyes performances. But the same men, who stray get accolades from their mistresses. So they wanted men to explain the inconsistency in the 'home and 'away' matches.

Is njyesual performance increased under the influence?

Today we are myth busting. Maina and Mwalimu Kingangi were talking about a certain myth in our society. Apparently when a man is under the influence, his njyes performance increases significantly. Mwalimu was of the opposite opinion. He added that it's the same reason why ladies complain all the time. Let's discuss...

Njyes addiction

On Thursday, Maina and Mwalimu were talking about women who are obsessed with njyes. What do you do when your wife is a nymphomaniac? Mwalimu says that too much njyes is poisonous and should be moderated by the man. Yesterday, they were talking about quality versus quantity. Today, we shall combine both.

Does dowry give men the right to marital rape?

Today Maina and Mwalimu were again talking about ladies denying men their njyes rights. So they asked, does dowry give men the right to marital rape? Mwalimu did not believe in such a concept because your wife is not stranger.

Lions in the office, henpecked at home

Today Maina and Mwalimu were talking about men who are lions in the office and everywhere else but meek lambs in the home. They reasoned that the loudest men are henpecked fellows at home. Mwalimu was of the opinion that men are silent at home because they want calm and peace in their marriage.

Should men warm up before...?

Today Maina and Kingangi are talking about Kenyan men, again. It appears that women in our neighbouring countries are content with their husbands' performances because their men do warm up exercises. Now, Kenyan women would appreciate these warm up exercises before the njyes race but Mwalimu is of the opinion that a Kenyan man knows that his equipment never needs warm up.

Do men deserve appreciation for njyes?

Today Maina and Mwalimu were talking about men who cannot perform in njyes. Yes, they were back to such like topics that makes their breakfast show controversial. Anyway, Mwalimu was of the opinion that no matter how bad or how short they are, men deserve some appreciation. So do they?

Kenyan men, what qualities do you look for in a woman?

Today Maina and Kingangi flipped yesterday's topic and asked the Kenyan men what they looked for in a woman. Mwalimu emphasized on appreciation. Let's discuss.

Single ladies, what kind of man are you looking for?

Today Maina and Mwalimu Kingangi were again talking about single and/or lonely ladies who are searching for a good man. So, if they are not looking for the likes of Wakanai's and Kingangi's then who are they looking for?

Single women, how desperate can you get?

Today Maina and Mwalimu are taking about the seminar, "how to get married without delay" by one Naija Pastor called Chris Ojigbani that was held at KICC over the weekend. Apparently, thousands upon thousands of single women fought, shoved and scrambled for space as they screamed for prayers to get a husband. So they posed the question, how desperate can you get with hopes of getting a husband?

Are men responsible for their illegitimate children?

Yesterday, Monday, Maina and Mwalimu were talking about men's attitude towards their illegitimate children. Are these illegitimate children the responsibility of the biological father or the step father? Let's discuss.

Do alpha females exist in Kenya?

Today we shall discuss about Thursday's topic. Yes I know it's Sunday, but what are you going to do about it?

On Thursday, Maina and Mwalimu were talking about alpha females. Maina reckoned that an alpha female is ultra-independent and cannot stand it when a man pays for anything. Mwalimu didn't think that such a woman existed. Let's discuss.

Does Mwalimu Kingangi know the answer to an ideal marriage?

Hi people, I really hope that you have not noticed that some day(s) have been skipped and that today is Saturday. Actually if you had not noticed that today is Saturday I have some doctors' numbers I can give you.

Anywho, let's get back on the horse and discuss Wednesday's topic.

Mwalimu had a brainwave and claimed to have the answer to an ideal marriage: the wife's further studies! So they asked the all important question; if your man/husband tells you not to pursue your further studies or tells you to leave a certain job, would you obey?

PS: And don't ask where I've been. I wouldn't tell you anyway.

Is it true that married women pray for their husbands not to get money?

Today Maina and Mwalimu started the week with another sensitive topic in marriage; money. Apparently some women pray that their husbands not to get money. They believe that should their husbands prosper then they (husbands) would stray. So Maina and Mwalimu wanted to know, was that true?

Should a man deny his wife 'njyes'?

Well, today the roles were reversed. Maina and Mwalimu were talking about men who deny their women 'njyes'. Women argued that men should be ever ready for 'njyes' whenever their ladies are ready. Mwalimu was of the opinion that 'njyes' should come in milestones and that men are not 'njyes' machines. They also wanted to know how often is often enough

Should a woman deny her husband 'njyes'?

Today Maina and Mwalimu are back to their element. They were talking about a story in the Nairobi Star, a daily newspaper in Kenya. The story says that women use 'njyes' as a weapon against men. Mwalimu was of the opinion that there should be no reason why a woman should deny her husband 'njyes'. And they asked, is denying men 'njyes' justified?

Do women have a moment of doubt before they say "I do"?

Today Maina was talking about weddings. And he wanted to know whether the woman has a moment, just a moment of doubt before she says the magic words, "I do"?

Is it possible for a woman NOT to want a child?

Today's topic is about women and children. Is it possible for a woman not to want a child? Ever ever? Mwalimu is of the opinion that children are a blessing and are essential to happiness and women who do not want children are very selfish.

Today's woman-eat-man society. Are women out to finish men and their money?

Topic

Today's topic was about the woman eat man society that we live in. Mwalimu believes that the ladies we have today are out to finish mankind. He asked whether you have ever heard of a lady who has been bankrupted by a man. Women are out to finish the men and their money.

Should the decision to have a baby be a joint decision?

Topic

Today it's all about babies and how and when couples decide to have them. Normally it is a joint decision, but in some cases the woman decides without consulting the man. Mwalimu is of the opinion that making such a decision without consulting the man is a grave offense.

The role of Wives in marriage - morning show Tuesday 2010/08/10

Topic

Today's topic is about the role of women in their marriages. The caller believes that wives should take up a bigger role and not leave everything to the house help. A example given (which is considered good) is that a wife should wash the husband's 'intimates' read inner wear.

Poor Guy with a lazy, disorganized Wife - Monday 2010/08/09

Topic

Today's topic was about a guy whose wife is very disorganised. she never does any household chores like cleaning the house, washing dishes, cooking and even making the bed. The house help does everything. So the question is, is this reason to complain?

Rebuttal

• Are you a Christian?
• Do you like soul music and other classic hits of yesteryears?
• Do you listen to Classic 105 FM, a popular FM radio station in Kenya?
• Do you know of Maina Kageni and Mwalimu King'ang'i's Morning Show?
• Have you ever listened in to one of their topical discussions?
• Do you sometimes get tired of all the "worldly" answers given by the presenters/callers? 
• Do relationship matters interest you?
• Do you sometimes wish to give a what-would-Jesus-have-said contribution but never get the chance (or guts) to? (By the way, if you don't have the guts to call-in will be the topic of another blog)

If you answered YES to any of the above questions then don't even think about it just bookmark this site (yeah we know, we got you all with question 3, didn't we?)

The Bible says over and over again, "It is written..." Therefore, this blog will attempt to rebut these discussions by writing what-Jesus-would-have-said.

We promise not be overly fanatical about these topics because they are sensitive in nature and you cannot possibly know where someone is coming from. Besides, who are we, or you for that matter, to judge another. However, please accept mild fanaticism (we do hope that you have realized by now that that is an oxymoron)

We certainly do not claim to be experts in Christianity or relationships or Christianity in relationships or relationships in Christianity or experts in anything for that matter.
But we shall attempt to give practical Bible-based opinions/solutions as best as we can. The opinions in this website are just that opinions. Do not consider anything posted here as being beneficial for any purpose. We are not trying to proselytise anyone, but if you do get converted to Christianity then praise God.
Yaani, in many few words this is the disclaimer post.

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