Single women, how desperate can you get?

Today Maina and Mwalimu are taking about the seminar, "how to get married without delay" by one Naija Pastor called Chris Ojigbani that was held at KICC over the weekend. Apparently, thousands upon thousands of single women fought, shoved and scrambled for space as they screamed for prayers to get a husband. So they posed the question, how desperate can you get with hopes of getting a husband?

My Human Opinion

Today's topic was destined to elicit mixed reactions from listeners, especially after the census report that said the ratio of Kenyan men to women was about 1:1.

Truthfully, the behavior by our dear single women screamed desperate. This Chris guy has really made a name for himself in this arena. He knows how to tap into and exploit the emotional vulnerabilities of the single women. And to quote him, "By the end of the today, you will get your suitor..." Please! It was as if husbands were being given out at the event, promising instant husband gratification. Anyway, enough about the Naija seminar. I guess it's this allure of all things foreign that our women have. (a topic for another day??)

Now, dear single women, don't be desperate or appear to be. Instead, be joyful. Serve God and your community as much as you can. Strive to be a princess, Godly princess would be an added bonus, so that you can attract a prince when the time is right. Let me explain further.

A deer hunter hunts deer.(I will use a deer because it's foreign and it sounds like a 'dear' hunter) That sounds trivial. But think about it. If it looks like a deer, moves like a deer, behaves like a deer, sounds like a deer then it will be hunted by a deer hunter. A deer hunter chooses which deer to hunt. The specific deer the deer hunter chooses to hunt usually deserves to be hunted. i.e. Either it's extremely health and laden with meat thus the incentive to hunt it high despite the possible danger it may pose, or it has been isolated from the 'herd' and thus stands out, or it's in a tight corner and cannot escape, or sadly, it's injured and thus easy to catch.

Long story, be the woman a man would like to make his wife. Else, be the deer hunter.

My Biblical Opinion

It's important to pray, and pray without ceasing. Pray for a Godly spouse. Pray for yourself to be a Godly spouse.

1 Thess 5: ¹⁶Be joyful always; ¹⁷pray continually; ¹⁸give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

Now, the Bible doesn't limit us on the things we can ask the Almighty God. We can ask for health, wealth, jobs, chairs, cars, husbands, fish, pots and pans, etc.

HOWEVER, the requested item should ultimately bring glory to God. What does this mean?

It's not a guarantee that your pray(ers) will be answered. Why? Because there are several things that can hinder your prayer. Let's mention just three of them

Selfish motives - James 4:3

When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

The biggie one, Sin - Sin hinders prayers more than anything else - Isaiah 59: 1-2

Surely the arm of the LORD is not too short to save, nor his ear too dull to hear. But your iniquities have separated you from your God;your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear.

Last but not least, idols. And I mean this in every sense. God poses this question in Ezekiel 14:3

"Son of man, these men have set up idols in their hearts and put wicked stumbling blocks before their faces. Should I let them inquire of me at all?

So, are pastors like Mr. Chris idolized? Answer that for yourself.

Unforgiveness is another hindrance to answered prayer. Learn to forgive those men who have and will mostly likely hurt you. Learn also to forgive yourself. Mark 11:24-25

²⁴Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
²⁵And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins."

All in all, remember, God's timing is perfect.

¹¹ He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

So trust in God. Not yourself, not your parents, not your pastor.

We certainly don't know what's best for you and most times, you don't know either. But God knows. See you tomorrow.