My Human Opinion
It has been said somewhere that you don't judge a book by it's cover. But we still do. It's just the way we are. Even the Bible tells us that we humans look at the outward man/woman. The shoes on the man. The makeup on the woman. The car in the man. The chest on the woman. You name it.
Therefore, we all judge people around us by how the appear first, then the rest follow. We listen to how they say before we listen to what they say. i.e. Is there an accent, is there massive butchering of the language etc. We watch how they carry themselves before we watch where they are going. It's just the way we are. We see in other people what we want to see in them before, if ever, we see what they really are.
It's, therefore, no surprise that we sometimes have wrong impressions of the people around us—in the first few minutes
I think it's impossible to completely read a person correctly in the first few minutes. What do I mean. In the first few minutes you can read a person completely, but not correctly; or correctly but not completely.
It is easy to fake wealth, health, length (or lack thereof) but not forever. There are guys who tell women that they are flat broke and hustling, just to see their reaction.
Anyway, it takes time to completely and correctly get to know someone. That's why marriages are intended to last for a lifetime.
My Biblical Opinion
As mentioned easily, man/woman looks at the outward whereas God looks inward (and in essence we should too).1 Samuel 16:7 But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”Read the whole chapter later on. But right there is your answer!
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